My Tween keeps picking at me

[toothfairy73]

I'm getting so fed up. I can't do anything right at the moment as far as my DD (12) is concerned. And I'm certainly not allowed to enjoy anything. If I laugh (I hear something on the tv or radio that is funny) then she takes the piss out of my laugh. If I'm singing along to a song, that's wrong and tonight it was the final straw. A song I love came on the radio (Canter by Jerry Cinamon). I can't listen to it when they are around as on Apple Music they only have the sweary version (I recommend it), so when the radio edit comes I get excited (not played very often). It came on, and I was singing along. Cue to gap where the swear word would be, and I giggled. I didn't even notice I'd done it TBH, and the next minute my DD launches an attack "why do you always have yo do that, you always laugh when a song comes that has the swear word missing". it was a really angry verbal attack.

I just lost it (prepares to be flamed). I feel like as far as she is concerned I'm not allowed to have any fun. I'm not allowed to enjoy myself. I get that she finds things funny that I do not, and that's ok because we are all different, but she cannot allow me to just enjoy the moment, because it's not something she finds funny. She never behaves like this toward her dad. Just me.

It's constant. And it's every time I pick her up from school (she had a rehearsal). I bend over backwards to run around doing things for her and all I get in return is attitude.

Don’t react she will get bored.

I would send her to her room each time she is rude. She needs to learn that no one wants to spend time with an individual that puts others down. I'd also put a stop to facilitating any thing nice. These aren't punishments, but poor behaviour won't change unless it is corrected and she sees it has consequences. Good luck, it sounds horrible to live with.

I honestly don't understand people who allow their kids to behave like this. I move heaven and earth for my kids and they know it too but the one thing I won't take from them is sneering and nasty piss taking. I'd ask just exactly who she thought she was talking to? And I'd tell her how unpleasant she was being and that I wouldn't be bothering to lift a finger for her until she started being kinder towards me. And I wouldn't. Nothing. Not a thing until she appreciated me more. I've done it with my own children - 13 and 16. You'd be surprised how quickly they started being more pleasant.