Weaning an 18mo, I'm never going to stop breastfeeding 😓

[MustBeAWeasly]

I've been desperately trying to wean my 18mo for 6 months now.
I'm totally lost. Since day one it's been boob for absolutely everything.

At 12mo I started to wean her off milk at nap and bed time so I could have some sort of life. All good after some protesting it worked and shes now dropped that feed. Around the same time she started dropping the day time feeds aswell, when she isn't with me shes perfectly happy to go without.
Over the last month or two shes been asking for milk several times a day and a few times a night and is absolutely inconsolable until I give in, hyperventilating, screeching like a wild animal. Sje wants feeding the second she wakes up from a nap or the night and if she doesnt get it she completely looses her shit Today it's gone on for half an hour before I've given in.

I cant do it anymore, it's happening in public too she used to just forget after a minute but not anymore.
How the hell do you stop breastfeeding!! I'm so utterly done, I'd quite like a night away at some point!

Oh dear, that doesn't sound like fun

She's gearing up for being a toddler tbh. She knows you're wavering and will push it. Make a rule and stick to it. Even if she's inconsolable. Right now she's being inconsolable every day until you give in. See it through and she'll figure out that you won't give in.

If I were you I'd have an alternative eg milk in a snazzy new cup, or slightly warmed, maybe to drink cuddling in a cosy place.

You need to give her a new expectation of what happens on waking so eg a nice story and cuddle with a cup of milk. She might protest at first but she'll get it eventually. Every time you give in, it just delays the showdown for the next day!

Cold turkey OP. Cut her off, be consistent and don’t give in - it will be a horrid few days but she’ll get over it quickly and it’ll be done.

The problem with giving in eventually is she learns that all she has to do is carry on getting louder and then you'll give it to her.

Cold turkey, endure a horrible couple of days and then it'll be over and you'll never look back.