My kids are going to grow up to hate me anyway so why should I bother anymore

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I hate my own mother and I’m becoming her.

I try with my DD (9 months) but I just think what’s the point? She’s only going to grow up to hate me and dads get all the credit.

I’m tempted to just to the minimum to keep her alive and safe and not bother with the rest.

In what respect are you becoming your mother?

If you are struggling with your mood then your GP can help you.

I suspect you’re berating yourself more than you deserve.

I had a TERRIBLE parenting day yesterday but I’m not writing myself off just yet. I just need to develop some coping mechanisms.

You will do your best and you will get help with whatever you are struggling with because IT IS THE RIGHT THING TO DO.
You can do this!
It's not about who gets the credit or how your dd is going to repay you.
You are not your mother. You can do this!

What's up with your 9mo old? Is she especially hard work? Teething?

Why is her dad going to get all the credit?

Parenting is hard if it's one thing I'm learning is some days are wins and others your just barely coping.

There's no such thing as a perfect parent today my DD has been fractious she's almost 9 months and I'm putting it down to teething.
My DS can sometimes be a pain in the bum when he's not listening and being naughty

I love them both dearly and do everything I can to make sure they are cared for but there are times my mood can be low don't be so hard on yourself OP.

Maybe see if your partner can have your DD to give you a break at times and your DD won't grow up to hate you just because you and your own mother may have not gotten along doesn't mean it will be the same with you and your DD

Go to your GP. You do sound like you need help.

These feelings of despair are not normal.

You’re going to be ok, and a good mum, you just need help at the moment.

Make an appointment today.