Help pregnant at 42.

[JudyAnn1977]

Hi
Just after some advice really. I am just 42 years old and unexpectedly pregnant ( only a few weeks- going to the GP tomorrow ). My partner and I already have a 16 year old ( his son) and a 10 year old ( my son) . A few years ago whilst still in my 30s we did try for a baby together but to no avail and we stopped trying when I hit 38 so this has come as a bit of a surprise ( a one off occasion between coming off the pill and having the coil put in!). We are a little bit in shock as I guess we had resigned ourselves to the fact that all the baby bits were now far behind us and looking ahead to having more time to ourselves etc. We literally both feel so mixed up- definitely a bit excited but also a bit scared. I am 42 he is 41. I guess I am worried about being a bit older as a mum although I know lots of people around me who have had children in their 40s but also things like having a 3 bedroom house . It seems unfair to make a 16 year old or a will be 11 old potentially share a room with a baby brother or sister. Yet I absolutely love being a mum and my partner has always been a very hands on step dad/ dad. We both spent time as single parents when our boys were toddlers before we met each other. It just feels mad that as one child is about to leave primary school, another is at college and here we go again! I am primary school teacher so I have flexibility in my job and hours although have only recently gone back to more or less full time after 10 years part time!.I am just trying to find any advice or thoughts as we have not told anyone yet apart from my mother in law- who is beyond thrilled but supportive of any decisions we make.
Thank you

42 year old mum here! Not going to lie, pregnancy was tough and finding the early stages tough too...baby is 15 weeks now. We also have a four year old so there is no let up. But...I wouldn’t be without her. Despite the toll on my health, she’s gorgeous! I worry too about being an older mum, especially as my dad was an older father and I was conscious of it growing up. But I think of my daughter’s place in the big picture of the wider family and know that she will always have support. Good luck with whatever you decide to do. 😃

Had DS2 aged 40. No problems with pregnancy or birth. Better experience than 1st child as first was a terrible sleeper and I had years of PND. Mum at 40 was actually EASIER for me. He's 12 now and I had a bad few years when widowed but am back on top form now. Fit and sporty at 52!!!!
Re space/ room sharing: just keep the baby in with you for as long as possible. Is there a downstairs room such as a dining room which you could make into an extra bedroom???
Or convert a garage??? Or loft conversion- getting expensive options now... but still cheaper than moving expenses and a 4 bed house???

38, 42 what really is the difference there? Not sure what you'd do about the bedrooms though. But you've got a year and a half before you'll need one. Good luck x

Op what does your heart tell you? The little bit excited tells me you don't want an abortion, which means the rest will work itself out.

When is baby due plus 6 months? Will oldest be going to Uni? Are both older boys with you full time? It would make more sense them sharong Tbh.

This mays sound odd however bear with me....

If you woke up tomorrow to find out the test was wrong how would you feel?

That should answer your question as to what to do, go with your true answer I suspect you already know your feelings

Good luck whatever you decide