To be annoyed at this...

[Mamabear1988]

AIBU to be annoyed as what seems like numerous comments from many people?

So in convo we'll be talking and I'll get a response saying oh you're so lucky that your husband does that.....
LUCKY being the key word there. It's always like the other person is so hard done by.
Its thing like-
Going out for the day with kids together
Him doing the food shop
Buying me a christmas present
Remembering our anniversary
Doing the school run
Ironing or gardening or hoovering or whichever task it might be.

I'm stood there like seriously, I'm LUCKY that my husband wants to spend time with his kids, lucky that he does his share of housework?? Am I missing something here?

I get this a lot. My other half is fantastic, he’s a genuinely equal partner & parent. We split the chores - I do washing, bathroom cleaning, hoovering & tidying up after toddler. He does all the cooking (good job or we’d be eating burnt food 😂), he does the food shop, does the dusting & kitchen cleaning. He’s also very handy at DIY.

He takes our daughter out on his own to give me a rest and I do the same back.. & we have split the night shifts since our daughter was tiny. He’s currently downstairs doing painting with our daughter while I’m not feeling too great today

I get told constantly how lucky I am and I know I am incredibly lucky he’s such a thoroughly lovely human. I’ve certainly heard of some shockingly bad examples.. and some pretty mediocre examples too. Thank goodness we found good eggs

Definitely not “lucky. It’s called doing your fair share and being a decent father / husband

Peoples definitions of lucky are often odd e.g. who is told she is “lucky” to afford to buy a house with her partner after years of saving. I think that’s actually hard work and planning, rather than luck