My partner is really on a low and has been really struggling. His ex partner, who they share a child with is acting a bit difficult and I'm really looking for some advice.
They have been split up for years, never married, he's always paid his child maintenance. Recently he was made redundant and he rung her to let her know payments would have to stop until he started his new job, (had to work a month in hand) she went absolutely ballistic! Telling him if he couldn't pay me then I would have to and that if I didn't she would cause trouble. She rang CSA who told her that he would not have to pay until he started his new job.
Since then she has cut all contact with my partner and his child, we have children together who don't understand why their older brother doesn't come to visit anymore. She poisons the little boys mind, telling him we don't love him, she tells him my partners not his dad and that only her children are his siblings, he's been completely brainwashed- he hates being with us. He loves his mum, we have tried and tried so so hard. We offered to take them all to Disney and she refused, so we decided none of us would go. We never leave him out of anything and if he chooses not to go, we end up feeling so bad that the other children end up loosing out too.
My partner now pays her £350 a month in CSA. I work for the NHS and he works for a motor company. We work so so hard for our money. She has never worked a day in her life, her flat is disgusting and her children are unkept. We have tried everything we can think of, solicitors, social services, family courts, it just feels like because she is the mum she automatically gets treated better. She's failed drugs tests etc.
She still will not let my partner see his son.. I'm really just looking for some advice, is there anything else we can do? We are desperate and heartbroken. Sorry for the lengthy post but it's quite therapeutic to get it all out 