High risk 37 weeks pregnant. Partner out drinking

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Hi guys!

I'm in a situation here I would like some opinions on.
I'm 37 weeks pregnant today, high risk- choleastatis, gestation diabetes, blood clotting disorder, the list goes on...
I am having sweep on Tuesday.

My best friend is trying to glue into my head that it's wrong my partner is out drinking as I post this.
She doesn't let her boyfriend out with his friends due to trust issues so I'm assuming she doesn't understand how I'm being fair in letting my partner out

But, is she possibly right? He's currently in the pub and won't be back until 2/3am..he will get drunk and he doesn't usually check his phone
I'm over thinking this and im starting to think myself that he shouldn't be out while I'm 37 weeks and high risk despite me not getting started off until Tuesday. There's not a massive chance I'll go tonight but a part of me thinks he should be home supporting me and staying sober incase something went wrong?

Opinions please :) xx

She doesn’t let her boyfriend out due to trust issues?? Well, that’s all kinds of wrong. Either she trusts him and stays with him, or they split up. No point being in a relationship with no trust.

Is your p generally kind and considerate? Sounds like she’s tarring him with the same brush as her p and encouraging you not to tryst your bf - why?

Did you ask him not to go out tonight?

@friedbeansandcheese
You've hit the nail on the head. I have such baby brain, what you've said sounds so so right! She's trying to make out my partner isn't trustworthy! She comments on every time he goes out..he goes to gigs a lot due to being in military for 8 years, he's never had much of a freedom.

She doesn't see the compromise, I don't think.
I do trust him and when he asked if I minded he went out tonight, I said no aslong as you don't get tooooo drunk!

Xx

Your BF is not prioritising you, your health or your unborn baby. I suggest a serious conversation with him (when he is sober and not hungover).

I would be expecting him to keep an eye on his phone just in case but otherwise her issues are not your issues....

I think she has her own issues but I wouldn't be happy about not being able to get hold of my partner towards the end of pregnancy or him being so drunk. But my partner doesn't drink so that probably colours my opinion.

I wouldn’t have minded him going out but I would have minded him getting drunk and not checking his phone, at 37 weeks. Your call though.

Well, one night at 37 weeks? I think that’s ok. But have you talked to your bf about being at home and sober so you can contact him before the birth?

A few years ago I might have said 37 weeks was probably ok for a night out, but then my friend’s husband went out drinking when she was 36+4 and she went into labour. He was still a bit tipsy while she was having an emergency C-section - not an ideal introduction to parenthood for either of them!

I would have expected him not to get drunk and to keep his phone with him and check it.
I was in hospital from 28 weeks and gave birth at 34 weeks. It can literally happen at any time. My DH did see his friends obviously when I was In hospital but he never had a drink as he said he’d never forgive himself if something happened. I don’t think getting drunk is worth missing the birth of your child to be honest.
That said, your friend is projecting and I feel sorry for her fella!

She sounds toxic as hell. She doesn't trust her own DP & instead of accepting that is an issue with her DP & her, she's transferring that onto you by constantly whispering negative crap in your ear to undermine your DP & your relationship. Only YOU can decide if you are unhappy with your DP going out drinking at this point in your pregnancy & it doesn't sound as if you are, she needs to stop her toxic bull, or move on & leave her behind

I think its fine to go out. Id want him to be contactable though.

Going out for a few drinks is reasonable, but being uncontactable and drunk is not.

I went into labour at exactly 37 weeks