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Epic fail as a mother today and it's only 11am

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user1478639495 · 22/11/2019 11:16

So just sat here crying my eyes feeding my 4 month old and my two year old is just staring at me. I have failed them both I've let the stress and pressure get to me and I've just give in I don't like to cry in front of them I need to be strong fun everything positive they shouldn't have to witness their mummy having a breakdown this should be kept for the shower or something.

I'm meant to be taking them to my mothers house they've kindly offered to give me a few hours break as she can see I'm worn out and run down yet at 10.10 she texts to say we've just got up bring them down now....both still in pjs and toddler refusing to get dressed and I don't have the energy to fight him, they got to go out again at 3, but the time I've finished feeding etc I won't get them down there until 12 at the earliest then I got to get back down there for 2 so we can have a 'catch up' before ether have to leave and I'm meant to be having some help today? Tell me if I'm ungrateful but out of a whole day I'm getting about 2 hours to get the whole house tidy cleaned washing done and née stress? That's not really what i call giving me a day off don't get me wrong I'm all for it and totally great-full but when someone says to you we will have them for basically the day or half a day you just rest making out they'll take every pressure off you and you stupidly believe then it's a bit of a kick in the teeth when you realize you no longer have that time.

Don't mean to be un great full or anything just at my whits end with trying to do everything, I think this is the third time now I've lost my voice in the past 3 weeks due to be running down, ppl say they'll help just shout I do and still don't get much help. I give up I've even given up telling ppl I feel shite cuz what's the point no one really gives a shit your just expected to crack on.

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beemay · 22/11/2019 11:38

Oh how rubbish, I feel for you. Yes people often say 'just shout', when what they really mean is 'as long as it fits in with our plans'... for next time maybe try being super clear about what you need, how much time or they won't know? But for this time can you use the time to rest, or at least some of it, rather than burning out even more with chores... hope your day improves

Caterina99 · 22/11/2019 15:06

I’m sure it’s upsetting and frustrating if you feel you’ve been let down, but 2 hours to yourself is a pretty long period of time and better than nothing! Why don’t you just take yourself for a coffee or something in that time and don’t even go home or think about housework?

Then, if you think your parents are genuine in wanting them for a longer period of time, book a date with them and specifically get the times sorted. Drop them off at 10am.

Does your toddler go to nursery or anything? Those few hours a week saved my sanity for sure when I had a 2 year old and a baby. Or maybe family could watch him for a bit and you just have the baby to deal with. One child feels like bliss when you’re used to 2!

YouJustDoYou · 22/11/2019 15:08

Op, I've found myself sobbing into the floor before. Several times. You have NOT failed. You are doing your best under trying circumstances Flowers

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Thestrangestthing · 22/11/2019 15:10

OP, your baby doesn't have a clue you're crying and your 2 year old won't even remember it by the end of the day. Sounds like you are putting too much pressure on yourself to always be funtime mum. Could your parens not come to you and you can go out? Makes more s

ineedaholidaynow · 22/11/2019 15:11

Do you have a partner, can't they do the housework when they are home?

Toddler and baby are hard work

LochJessMonster · 22/11/2019 15:13

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LochJessMonster · 22/11/2019 15:13

people often say 'just shout', when what they really mean is 'as long as it fits in with our plans'. Well technically they have offered from 10am-2pm which is a fair amount of time to take a 4 month old and a 2 year old. Its not their fault the OP won't have them fed/dressed/ready to go until 12.

In the future, ask them in advance what time they can have the children from so you can be ready, and therefore making the most of the time off.

It hasn't gone well today but at least you have someone willing to give you support which is nice. Have a little cry, snuggle up on the sofa with the kids, and then get back on it tomorrow flowers

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