Angry with ex over what he expects from me.

[Bringiton2019]

Hi
My ex husband and I split 2 years ago. Long story short, he took it very badly, and it has made his mental health/depression worse.

I am very careful around him, I know he's vulnerable. Basically we share custody of our child. He has been unemployed for a while, he has tried to set up businesses but they all keep failing for whatever reason.
Anyway he has the chance of a job but it means a 6:30 finish, therefore he won't be able to pick DD up from school. I offered to collect, but he told me that he assumed I would collect her then drop off at his job for him to get bus home with DD.

I am not happy with this as she'll be getting home late, ie if she has homework and bath etc. Then she has to get bus again in the morning for school, she's only 8!!!

I said when I offered it was to bring her home with me.

AUBU? I'm constantly worried about his mental health and being tired & stressed makes him worse.

Job maybe a short term thing and hopefully he'll look at getting a car!

Sorry for essay, just looking for advice.

No, you are not being unreasonable. What’s best for your DD is to be picked up from school and brought home. Not dragged around from pillar to post.

Your concern should be for your child's well-being and stability, not for how you can make your ex's life easier.

As for his failed businesses, just look at the common denominator. That would be him. Stop worrying about his mental health concerns because those are his issues to sort out. You are not responsible for him in any way.