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I’m really struggling and could do with a hand hold...

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BlueMoon1103 · 17/11/2019 17:56

Basically my DS was really unwell last month and in hospital, he was well for about a week and then came down with Bronchiolitis. This started about last Sunday/Monday so it’s been about a week. I’m really struggling to cope. He’s crying all the time, being really clingy, not drinking his milk, not eating what I cook for him, doesn’t want to play, doesn’t want to be in one place for too long. I know he’s ill but I don’t know how much more of being constantly cried and screamed at I can take. I’m a single Mum so don’t have a partner around to help and my DM just makes me feel worse sometimes and only helps on her terms, if she doesn’t feel like helping and I ask I need to ‘get used to it’ because ‘this is parenting’ and I can’t ‘reply on my parents all the time’. I don’t harass or beg her to help and usually only accept if she offers or if it’s for something like work, I don’t go out drinking or partying, not to the cinema or anything.

Just looking for someone to make me feel better and it feels better to write it out, I’ve got no one I feel I can talk to in person.

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Rosebud1302 · 17/11/2019 18:15

OP I have no advice but I can give a sort of hand hold. My boy has been constantly unwell for what seems like months. Nothing as bad as your poor little boy but cold after cold, then horrible teething which meant he screaming pretty much all the time. Now he has a chest infection. He hasn't eaten a meal in a long time and doesn't really want to play. It is very draining and I have my partner here so I can only imagine how hard it is for you. Sorry I can't offer advice but we will get through this!!

Rosebud1302 · 17/11/2019 18:16

Oh I will say I relied on his favourite YouTube nursery rhyme channel for much longer and more often than I would like when things were at it's worst but it was the only way to stop him crying. I recommend letting these things slide for now while things are this tough.

Itwontrainallthetime · 17/11/2019 18:31

Sending you lots of hugs.

I'm not a single mum but sometimes it feels like it.
Both my DC have had the flu last week and so has dh ,i caught it too but not as bad, but dh is like my third child , no help what so ever.
It's hard when your exhausted from being up in the night too with your poorly little one and having no sleep doesn't help. Plus all the worry with them not eating or drinking as often and crying.
I just think to myself it's not going to last and they will get over their illness soon. Doesn't help when there having a melt down from not feeling well, and there is nothing more you can do.

Then there is all the worry of housework not getting done, and other errands. But it's not going to be like this forever, so don't feel bad for not getting stuff done. If your DC is comforted by your cuddles etc then sit and cuddle all day. You then get a break ,worry about the other stuff once DC is on the mend.

How does your son like to relax ? with my DC I let them have their blankets and a pillow on the sofa down stairs with a hot water bottle for comfort.

Is your DC taking anything for his illness , Calpol etc.

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Mylittlepony374 · 17/11/2019 19:38

Is he on steroids? My little boy gets bronchiolitis regularly unfortunately, they think due to prematurity. Anyway, when it's bad 2 or 3 days of steroids will bring him back to himself, so if yours is on steroids know it will get better. If he's not, maybe another visit to GP to see if it's appropriate for him?
I'm sorry you and he are going through this. It's really really tough.
Do you have any friends you could handover to, even for half an hour to get some fresh air and peace?

BlueMoon1103 · 17/11/2019 20:26

No I’ve not got anyone I could leave him with. I’ve been told as it’s viral they won’t give anything for it and go to hospital if he stops having wet nappies. That’s it.

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MiniMaxi · 17/11/2019 20:39

OP you may know this already but you also need to go to hospital if his breathing rate is 60 breaths / minute or more, or if he’s working really hard to breathe (sucking in under ribs, at bottom of neck, glaring nostrils).

Bronchiolitis sucks! They can’t make it go away but if it’s a bad bout then they can give oxygen to help him along til he fights it off.

Hope things get easier soon.

RobinsEggBlue · 17/11/2019 22:53

I’m sorry you’re going through this, it’s so awful when they are ill- how old is he? I’ll bet you are exhausted and feel like it will never end. Do whatever you need to both get as much sleep as you can- you are doing an amazing job

Mylittlepony374 · 18/11/2019 09:10

How are you doing today? Any improvement?

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