Due to give birth in 8 weeks, DH grandmother only pops up at the exciting times in our life, haven’t heard from her since July when we announced the pregnancy to the family, no how is the baby or how am I feeling, didn’t even acknowledge the 20 week scan date to see if baby was healthy.
Anyway, fast forward now to the last trimester, she wants to bring down a countdown to Christmas calendar (which she has made herself) for my son who is 3. Hasn’t seen him since July.
Last Christmas she came down caused a scene, said she’d forgot my gift, gave DH LOADS of presents bearing in mind he’s in his thirties and gave my son a teddy from the pound shop.
The Christmas before was the same, LOADS of gifts for my husband, nothing for me and a puzzle for my three year old which she said to share with mammy and laughed.
I am literally on eggshells about this countdown to Christmas gift she is creating, there’s going to be an agenda behind it, I’m sure the woman is a psychopath. Would I be unreasonable to tell my husband not to collect it or allow her to come down to give it over as I can’t be dealing with the stress just before the birth of our new arrival? but then I think how bad can it be? What could she put behind the doors? It’s making me laugh thinking about it but it’s a really special time for us and we are in such a happy, excitable place! Will I feel guilty if I’m just overthinking, maybe there is no agenda and she is being lovely. Would it be bad to just say we forgot about it?