Separation anxiety night time

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Hi everyone. I am hoping for some help and advice. I am still BF my daughter and she is 11 months old. She's always been good at going down in her cot after milk. She started nursery 2 x days a week 6 weeks ago. Two weeks ago she had a viral and was very poorly, ever since then she has bad separation anxiety to me. When I put her down she cries or walks out of the room. She is waking up everyone couple fo
Hours inconsolable and the minute I hug her falling back asleep, but then waking up when trying to put her down. I did feed her to sleep but been consciously not doing this last few days. I'm unsure what to do to try and fix as she isn't getting any good rest and neither are we. Our parents think she is 'mard' and we should let her cry it out. I tried this for about 4 x mins and she cried so much she was sick in her cot.

Do I get a sleep therapist? Is it sleep or separation anxiety in general? Any books people recommend? Tips?  xxx

She just wants to be close to you. My DD is 13m and the same. I still bf on demand and she cosleeps with me. Cry it out is awful. Don't do that to your baby

I would wait it out. It’s normal for sleep to regress when you’ve gone back to work and they’re in childcare. Ignore your parents - she needs extra reassurance not to be left alone crying.

I know how hard to exhaustion is OP. I think you have to do whatever you can to get some sleep while you wait for it to pass. Co sleep etc.
I’d personally try a few times to put her down asleep as my LO will sometimes surprise me and out of nowhere actually stay asleep and sleep for a while.

Thank you all. the exhaustion is hard, really hoping it will pass. I'm too scared to do sleep with her X

Please don't let her cry it out. At her age all children go through a really clingy period and need to be near their parent a lot. We got most sleep by co-sleeping but it did create a bit of a problem as they still all run into our bed every night. I still wouldn't do it differently though. All evidence from studies on child psychology say it is normal behaviour especially in 9-18 month olds and that the best way to get them through it is physical closeness and lots of reassurance.