I ignored my newborn crying...

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Last night my baby was crying (he had been fed, nappy changed, cuddles) and I ignored him because I was just getting so stressed and frustrated.
He eventually calmed himself down but now I feel so guilty. I feel like a bad mum that I've negatively effected baby for life. That he will struggle attaching to me now or that he won't communicate when he's upset.
I just feel so horrible and like I've effected baby's development.

Ah no don’t worry at all! It was a one off and you also checked he didn’t need anything obvious, it’s a very hard and exhausting time with a newborn and you need to be kinder to yourself. You sound like you are doing a great job and don’t worry he won’t remember or hold it against you! You are doing great!!!

He'll be totally fine. Sometimes we just need to have some time away - as long as the baby is safe, it's ok to walk away and clear your head.

I had a baby who hated being in the car and cried every time he was in it. Nothing I could do as car travel was needed. He's a very happy toddler now.

You're doing a great job, it's so hard in the early days.

A lot of new research suggest babies who are regularly allowed to cry it out but have a lot of love and attention from parents otherwise, have lower cortisol levels as children and lower anxiety levels as adults. So don’t worry.

I think you done the correct thing.

If you feel frustrated it’s best to put them somewhere safe and have a few minutes.

It’s so hard in the beginning.

Please don’t worry OP. Honestly this won’t affect your baby. You’re only human!

Sometimes babies cry to block out the world. Put it out your head.

Please don’t worry, my DD hated the car for a while as a newborn & I regularly drove with her screaming in the back as I couldn’t do anything until I got home! She was totally fine, I on the other hand was frazzled! Similarly, if I was cooking or something, sometimes I just had to let her cry or burn my food! Imagine those with older children, sometimes you have to put one first & it can’t always be baby if your toddler is about to fall head first off the sofa!

I promise leaving my daughter to cry occasionally has done no harm! She’s a loving, happy 2.5 year old who I now leave having temper sobs on the floor until she calms down! Ahh parenting..

I was told during my nct course that positive interactions resonate more strongly with babies/children so something as minor as this wouldn’t even be a blip on your babies radar.

Please don’t call yourself a bad mother. The fact you are concerned means you are not that at all. I think there is far too much pressure on mothers to be perfect, constantly attentive and engaging where the reality is this is not attainable. Also your baby does not need attention 100% of the time. As long as they are happy, healthy and safe, a cry every now and again won’t do them any harm and will save your sanity.

Honestly, I don't think there is a parent on earth who hasn't don't that at some stage....the fact that you're even concerned shows you're a great mum. Don't beat yourself up!

Sometimes it's the best thing to do, and gives you a little breather. You aren't a bad mum

I did this once. My daughter calmed down quickly, and started crying again when I picked her up. I realised that sometimes she actually needed space and would calm quicker than if I held her!! I used to get some strange looks at NCT meet ups when I put my crying baby in her pram...until she stopped crying.

Mine were born at a time when cio was recommended by the HV. They are perfectly well adjusted adults now. It's my younger ones who have never had to cio that are anxious. Not suggesting correlation just an observation.

God you have just brought back a couple of memories from summer last year. Honestly I had to do this a couple of times when I was seriously questioning my sanity with my colicy DS. It is 1000% the safest thing to do. leave baby safe in cot etc and go splash some water on your face look in the mirror tell yourself your amazing and you got this and then go back. 15 months on and me are winning 😎. Take care of yourself