Threats by abusive partner

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My dc's dad is threatening to leave and take my4 year old son. He is an abusive controlling person and I'm scared in case he takes my child. He has slept on my couch for 4 years now but He is saying he's moving out after Christmas but taking my son with him. I told him he has absolutley no chance of that happening .He is not on my tenancy agreement , only me and my child who is settled at school which is 5 minutes away from where we live, also he has been to court in the past for custody of his child with his ex , he got contact but eventually gave it up as the child's family said he wasn't a good influence ( telling his child to hurt his parental guardian and letting him play violent video games at 5 -which I have proof off ie actual court documents) would this go against him if he did take me to court or try to take my child? He is on birth certificate but He is one evil person and him being around my child will not be in my sons best interests. He has been emotionally abusive and controlling to me now and in the past but I've not reported it stupidly as I'm too scared of him and what he would do if I phoned the police. I just don't want him any were near me or my child. I'm a brilliant mum I do eveytjing for him and I could not live without my son he's my world and the only thing that keeps me going and he is thriving and I don't want any unnessacry stress for him.Were on the other hand his dad does jack, and gets annoyed if he has to do anything for him and shouts at him if it gets a bit hard and i know he ll be like that more if i werent there. Please does anyone have any advice for me or some encouraging wordS?

I don't think he's very bright OP. You have a tenancy, a home for your child, organised school. He isn't on the tenancy agreement so he can fuck off if he likes. Is he planning a sofa for your son too? Wow brilliant parenting there.

It's empty threats anyway like you say he has dropped his responsibilities before. He's just full of shit.

You would be well within your rights to tell him to leave now, change the locks and he can ask you not tell when he would like to see your son and you can decide what is best for your son.

You need to buck up and get in contact with the police for the sake of your son. You might be scared but imagine how a 4 year old must be feeling?

Thanks guys xx JumpiesBat, he is deluded I know that, just all the threats and stuff gets you worried but your perspective has boosted my confidence. Starryskye I defo need to buck up and sort this out like you say , breaks my heart thinking about that but you're right . Thanks for your advice and taking time to read

Do report to the police. This will help you if it gets to court. They will also be able to advise and support you.

Contact the national domestic violence helpline, or women's aid who now do live chat. They can also offer advice and support.

You know what's going on love and it doesn't have to be this way. Actions matter not words. It's hard but you are doing great.

He doesn't necessarily have to know if you report him to the police (unless you want them to take action) but as others have said it will help your case in future if there is a report on file. Definitely google to see if there are any local domestic abuse support organisations nearby, or if not call a helpline. They should be able to help you form a plan to end this nightmare of a situation safely, keep your son safe too and give you the support you need.