Nowhere for my baby to sleep?

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Some of you might recognise me from previous posts with the trouble with my ex-boyfriend and us still living together. Well now I have had to panic and leave to be at my dad's after my ex grabbed me and pinned me to the bed with baby there.
He wouldn't let me take the cot so I have next to nothing. I'm not sure what to put baby to sleep on? I have his pram. I also have his changing mat so I was thinking of putting blankets on it and putting it on the bed?
But I don't know whats the safest thing to do? Any advice? He's very little and was born 2 months premature so I want the safest.

What kind of pram is it? Some of the carrycots are ok for overnight sleeping, check the manufacturer's guidelines

do you have any drawers that can be removed? if so, you could pad it with blankets, swaddle the baby and then put them into the drawer

I was going to suggest a drawer too-when my parents brought me home from hospital, they were having alterations done to the house so 4 of us were in 1 bedroom and I spent my first few weeks in a drawer

@Strangerthingshere it's the carrycot from the babylo panorama pram so I'm not sure.
@sleepismysuperpower1 @JudgeRindersMinder my dad only has a wardrobe and then small draws which baby won't fit in.

Local fb group and see if anyone has a travel cot or Moses basket you could borrow?

Have you tried your local freecycle. There are always loads of cots and Moses baskets on ours.

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Where are you sleeping? If you can have a bed I would co sleep (following safety guidelines e.g no duvets etc) - but assess all the risk factors, I was happy co sleeping as didn’t smoke and baby wasn’t premature etc etc

Have a brand new Moses basket you could have if you were close to Lincolnshire. X

I think the carry cot from the pram would be your safest option for tonight, tomorrow you can see about getting a cot or moses basket on fb marketplace or freecycle or somewhere.

I also have a next to me crib you can have from free if in Oxfordshire?

Well done for leaving and getting you and your son to safety

PPs have made some good suggestions.

Just to add that it would be a good idea to call your local Women's Aid and your local Citizen's Advice. They will be able to advise you about your housing and legal options. And if you are willing to report the abuse to the police, they might be able to advise on recovering your belongings (and baby's) including the cot.

In my city there is a charity which offers baby items to parents on low incomes and in difficult circumstances like yours. Your local WA/CA would know if there is something like that near you.

Had a Google- the carrycot from the pram doesn't look like it's safe for overnight sleeping. Usually it tells you if it is.

Either carry cot or have a look at safe co sleeping.
Sorry for what you're going through.

Don’t balence him on things on the bed, either have him on the mat on the floor or in the bed with you. Do you still have a key? Could your dad go round and take the cot?

Where are you OP someone might be able to help?

Have you got a large ASDA near you? They do a good Moses basket for about £30 if you can scrape that much together?

I'm in Liverpool but thank you everyone for the offers of the cot and all the support it's really appreciated.
I'm going to check out the Freecycle. I think for tonight I might have to co-sleep which I'm hesitant to do but I don't think I will sleep much considering everything. Just worried about where I am going to live now 😕

Contact your health visitor, they'll help you sort out the essentials and put you in touch with organisations to help sort out some of the longer term stuff. Well done for leaving!

Google safe co-sleeping, there are a few things you can do to make it safer.

Google safe co-sleeping (how large is the bed?) for tonight but given baby was 2 months early I wouldn’t use that as a longer term solution.
Are you able to talk to your health visitor / women’s aid tomorrow and consider speaking to the police about what happened? I’ve not seen your previous threads but would be concerned about your partner wanting visitation down the line and having things logged with the police will help prevent him seeing little one on his own.

Definitely look up safe co-sleeping. Don’t do it if you smoke, drink or are taking certain medication.

If you’re not used to it, I wouldn’t start at this point.

Fantastic that you’ve left. Don’t listen to any excuses/sob stories, etc... don’t go back!!

For tonight op just make sure the bed is pushed against the wall with no gap that the baby could fall into, move all pillows and duvets out of the way, tie your hair back if long and have the baby sleep in a swaddle between you and the wall. I’d recommend sleeping in a jumper and tucking the duvet around your waist so it’s not near your baby.

Best of luck with everything.

**echoing pp’s though that it’s important you’re not smoking or drinking if you do co-sleep tonight.

Would sleeping on the floor be safer than sleeping in the bed? I read about a mum who lost her baby because he fell into a gap between the bed and the wall- personally I would put the mattress on the floor or just sleep on the floor itself.