16 month old only wants Daddy- heartbroken

[PerfectPeony2]

I know this is a bit dramatic as I’m sure it’s one of the many phases we have to work through.

But my little girl just won’t play with or spend any time with me when DH is home. She pushes me away and only wants him for comfort.

She used to be such a Mummy’s girl. I breastfed for 14 months, she was my little best friend up until about a month or so ago.

Did this phase happen to you and how long did it last? I never thought I’d say this but part of me misses my clingy baby!

Does he do any of the messier bits of parenting eg telling offs / saying no etc? If not get him started.

I guess dad is out all day and you are just boring old mummy? Kids have phases like that. She will grow out of it.

This is a totally normal phase of development. Honestly, don't take it personally because it's not. It will pass soon enough.

Absolutely normal. With DC1 it lasted 6 months, with DC2 we're onto 1.5yrs.

It's actually great that she has such a secure attachment with him...don't be upset, one of my dds was the same. She still loves you 😊

It's normal and it's a really good sign re attachment. I used to go for long undisturbed baths with a book and go to the lav on my own. It was fab

Make the most of it I say.

I could have written (and actually did) your post with my daughter few years back. Exact same - wanted Dad, pushed me away, etc. I felt so heartbroken. I started spending more one to one time with her. Kept trying ... once her Dad went on a trip for few days and I dedicated my time to her. Since then she has been 50-50. Never been a mum's girl always more dad's but I know she loves me equally.

I had 3 years of ds being all for his dad and I used to take it personally.That all changed though on our 1st holiday abroad as a family when ds wanted daddy to go in the sea,daddy to make sandcastles, take him to toilet etc Much more sunbathing for me! 😊

Happy days!

Enjoy it whilst it lasts. Might be a week, might be a month.

He definitely does his fair share. I do more work like getting DD dressed, bath, teeth but that’s only because I want to.

I work three days a week and on our days it’s just us I get lots of cuddles. It’s lovely. But on weekends and evenings it’s like I don’t exist!

It is nice to be able to have an undisturbed cup of tea but I miss her. I think it’s because she was such a difficult baby, cried a lot but I could always comfort her now it’s all changed!

I’m glad it’s normal. I just hope it doesn’t last too long.

This is not only a normal phase of development, but it's the best one! Have a rest, do what you like, sleep an extra hour! Do whatever you want (: My son didn't want to spend lots of time with his dad. I was exhausted and the only way I could have a rest a little was using the pack-n-play. He safely played there with his favourite toys and I was sitting on my cosy sofa, drinking the tastiest tea with bergamot. So, "don't worry, be happy" (: