This is how I personally have found my experience becoming a parent, There becomes a point in life when you notice how a lot things change, you notice who your important and who actually cares especially when you’ve had kids it’s one of the biggest changes you can make in life. When you make that choice to not have your independence, no more nights out or weekends away or to just to have time to yourself, becoming a parent changes everything, it turns you world upside down but most of all most of the people that were around before hand are probably not there now. when you realise you watch enough episodes of in the night garden or waffle the wonder dog or whatever else your child decides they want to watch over and but you become this expert on the program and could play the whole dam episodes in your sleep!! 😱 you become a walking nursery rhymes machine or other random songs just to please you child, one thing for sure the simple things in life have just become much harder to achieve, want to use the toilet go ahead but that’s now a meeting room for kids,partner and the dog to meet you there 🤨 want to nip to the shop sure you only want some F-ing milk but my god that’s a marathon on its own, put shoes on no the shoes are off, chase the child round to get them back on, ask them politely to put their coat on and you get no mummy come on we’re going to the shop no mummy, so then you like well bye then, their reply bye bye 👋 you pretend to leave your kid laughs and says bye mummy you eventually give up trying 😤 having a life that depends solely on you is hard, having 2 lives that rely on you my god I knew it would be hard but this is next level, you sort one kid out then onto the other when your done and think finally we can leave the house no no because your toddler has stripped off their clothes or the baby decides now you’ve changed the nappy he will do a poo and you just think to yourself why couldn’t that of been done 30 seconds ago so that’s another nappy change done, but you can see their mind ticking then he decides the bottle he had only a hour ago wasn’t enough he now wants another but he’ll make sure it takes 2 hours to drink ffs. 🤯 You can be doing that then the toddler demands your attention there and then or wants you to grown an extra pair of arms to open their crisp that they have fetched, but knowing if you take the bottle of the baby you’ll be there even longer, but you decide to take chance as you know if you don’t open those crisp in the next 0.0001 second we’re having a full melt down to the point you can see the devil appearing, you try a nice approach to get them to wait fails miserably try bribing them hoping they will give you another 10 mins to settle the baby when that fails we use the naughty step soon as those words leave your lips, it’s like bam there’s the halo 😇 unless your child decides to up the game and there it is the devil appeared the child is now kicking hitting pinching... eurgh why?! head butts the floor and your like why what makes you do this 😫, then there’s nap time 😴 you think yes nap time, I’ll tidy up I’ll do the washing or prepare tea that you know full well the child will play with till they are covered or decide they don’t want to eat that, but reality your like just have a nap this momma needs a nap too, and then your child decides no there not having a nap their to busy playing with the first toy they can get to, eurgh come on child if waking me up at crack of dawn wasn’t a big enough punishment. But then you have another cup of coffee you’ve lost count how many you’ve had and you think about using something to stick your eyes open.. and then you think about bedtime and how you can’t wait for it to get here so you can just sit and relax before you have to deal with the baby... but then you remember it’s the dreaded bath night the night where you may as well get a priest in, because an ounce of water touches my toddlers head wow I have hell to pay, you wonder if anyone can actually hear the commotion going of and how bad it must sound to someone if they can hear you, or there’s time you think I need to place myself in time out because you can hide for a few seconds or eat a bit more chocolate and debate if its to early for wine 🍷 and not having to share your chocolate and you can have a few seconds peace and quite before you take that big deep breath the last drop of your coffee and brace motherhood once more, you get to a point where you think I’m failing as a mother how did I ever think I could be any good any this parenting stuff, and you have to deal with other people’s comments and you think I’m sorry but we’re not perfect we don’t get given instructions how to cope or how to raise children.we constantly second guess ourselves wonder are we doing it right or think what the hell are we meant to do in some situations and you make it up and do why you feel is right. But you never know till they are older enough if you’ve done a good enough job raising them. I do often think where would I be in life if I didn’t have these beautiful
children init i would of probably become a mental health nurse as I was in the process of doing this before I found I was pregnant with my first child. I’d of probably of tried to pursue a career in child counselling. But then I know I can do that later on in life. You have days where you put that smile on your face and carry on not only because you need to but because there is 2 little ones that rely heavily on you to wake up in the morning feed them water them nurture them help them learn and grow, and also because you know no one actually cares how you are 😢 you hear more people say how’s the kids, or can you do this for me or that for me they may ask how are you but what they really want to hear is yes I’m very well thank you, it they only want to tell you all the things wrong with them, I felt since becoming a parent that my family just aren’t bothered any more I use to be so close with my mum and now she barely speaks to me, I’ve heard many times the saying what could possibly be wrong you’ve got kids, You haven’t got any reason to feel down, yes I have got kids and my life wouldn’t be any different even if I was given the chance, seeing there beautiful faces makes it worth it putting your life on stand by to be a mother watching them grow and seeing how they change and their little personality grow wow it fills me with so much love 💓.. sometimes people forget how lonely it can get being at home on your own with 2 kids and don’t get me wrong you can talk to the baby they look at you so innocently but you know they haven’t a clue what your saying, or you toddler will chat to the cows come home but it’s on the most random stuff, or you could strike a conversation with your dog 🐕 I’m sure she understands when she just sits their waging her tail probably thinking about a walk or food or other doggy stuff but you know you let yourself think they understand what you talking about, but it’s not the same as having someone to talk to to open up to feel a little bit of a human, to have a brew and a good laugh, but when you say truthfully how you are they are like oh well you had the kids blah blah blah like yeah thanks that’s just what I wanted to hear thank you for lifting my spirits up, yes I choose to have my life with children init, you don’t realise how much joy and love they bring to your life, and god I will never change that I was blessed with 2 beautiful babies, but no one says truthfully how hard it is they don’t say about how the loneliness kicks in when they get to a few weeks old because no one is bothered now and your partner is back at work, and the emotions you feel when you look at yourself in a mirror I’m proud of my tiger stripes and would never change them but you notice how the weight you’ve gained seems to think it’s here to stay and how even trying to look nice is a far distance memory as you know, you’ll be covered in baby sick, snot from your toddler and god knows what else comes your way, when you’ve hd kids you realise some things you use to do you no longer do or your not asked to do things that you would of done before because you have the kids and it makes it hard work with them or the people you would of done things with don’t want you to bring the kids along and unless you have a good baby sitter that you can trust and rely on or someone you know that’s willing to have them especially having 2 kids not many people want to look after them both because it’s to much for them to cope with, you may as well say bye to a social life 🙇♀️ date nights wow I can’t remember the last time me and my other half had even half an hour on our own let alone to go out without having that bit of worry of having to be back at home for this time or you need to stop because it’s bottle time, even though you never stop worrying!! Then you get jealous that your other half gets to go work and interact with ADULTS 🧑 and he’s not having to watch his 100th episode of in the night garden or waffle the wonder dog 😭 but you know for a fad it’s difficult, it’s hard they miss out on so much time with the children because they have to work and you know they rather be at home watching the 100th episode, you know their tired from work and having to be a parent also, although not all dads step up my partner stepped up to be a brilliant step dad to my DD you know they would love to stay at home so you can have time to yourself? You know deep down they miss the time you could spend together, it’s tough on both parents but not many people talk about how hard it is for the dad.. you swear blind at the end of it you want to strangle Igle pickle and upsy daisy, and the waffles family get very annoying, but then you see the smile and excitement it brings to your child 🧒 and you smile because it’s cute to see how them shows that drive us crazy mean something to your child, then you have make out your just as amused by something happening!! On one of them but deep in those thoughts you’ve probably killed all the characters off... I love my DD and DS so much they give me a meaning to life, they fill that void that you didn’t think you would need filling because you already thought you had everything!! My partner is incredible I wouldn’t of been able to stay sane if it wasn’t for him.. although you do think to yourself when they are at home and your toddler is behaving like the little angel they are and you wonder how and why when you are the one that spends every single minute with them but then you remember your mum your the safe place for them your the one that can take all their frustrations away and make them feel better, I’m proud of my children and what I’ve achieved in my life yes I could probably achieve more but my life my career can wait what’s important is I give my children the best possible life they can have, cherish every hug kisses wanting to be held, even the tantrums because one day that won’t be part of your life and I know when my children do grow up I’ll miss it terribly but I still get the joy of watching them spread their wings.. Being a parent is one of the hardest jobs to do even compared to my job working in a secure unit being a parent is hard, with your job you can leave it at the door 🚪 being a parent it doesn’t matter where you are or what you are doing it’s 24/7 it never stops there’s no annual leave from being a parent no time of sick or to rest, i probably sleep for 3/4 hours solid at night thats if my baby lets me sleep that 3/4 hour sleep is my time to rest before I get up and carry on. I would never have it any other way I’m so thankful to have them in my life but there’s too much pressure on us as parents...