Imbalance and costs

[gavpop]

Hi All - First time poster here and need some advice/opinions

I'm a father who has one 6 year old child whom I see twice a week. Split from her mother a few years back.

I've had a new gf for about a year now. She has two girls, 6 and 8.

We do not live together. She gets maintenance. I pay maintenance.

We obviously spend a lot of time together as one unit. When it comes to days out/holidays/restaurants/etc we split the bills 50/50. This is obviously in spite of the fact there is an imbalance in number of kids we each have.
If you consider that an average holiday can cost £3k, I'll pay £1500. Whereas if I was to go on holiday with just me and my daughter, it would only cost £1200.

So essentially I'm paying not insignificant amounts towards the entertainment of her kids.

For the most part this doesn't bother but it's reared its head recently. We went out for the evening with her friends and she didn't bring any money...not a penny. The assumption was I'd just pay up.

I'm curious what the general view on this is with people?
If there's an imbalance in the number of kids that each separated parent has, how do you deal with costs/bills?

You need to sit down and talk to her about how you are going to share your costs. How people in every relationship divides costs up is different and you need to work out what works for you.

One thing you need to get across to her is that she is showing all the girls that they should expect a man to pay for them, and this is not on.

In my case I'm not expected to pay for my partner's child but as I'm the much higher earner I pay for certain things there as he makes it clear to her that he pays for other things. When we go out with friends' it depends on the situation who pays though neither of us turns up without cards and/or money.