Just a quick question really to see if you would feel the way I do. Every month or so I have to ask my child's father for mantinence . If he sees me he will give me it fine ( if I ask ) but he will deliberately withhold it until I ask him. Also anything else that's DC needs. Say I told him something was broke ( something big and important that we would maybe go halves for every now and again very rarely ) he will reply generally like oh ok. Then if I hint about having to buy a new one he will say.. oh well anything I can do to help just ask me. ( knowing it's about money ) and then if I said anything else later on about him not offering to help he will go well you should have asked me then. He will never put his hand in his pocket of his own back. Would you say this is a empowerment thing? Its as if he likes me having to ask him. It's making me feel small. But it's his responsibility to help out and just do these things he's not 5.