Having a favourite child

[Bouledeneige]

Listening to the radio the other day I heard a comedian joke that parents pretend they don't have a favourite child, but they always do.

It reminded me of when as a child I overheard my Granny ask my mother who was her favourite. My Mum said 'oh you don't have favourites' and my Granny said oh I know you say that but you must have one really...' of course when I was growing up we always speculated who were our parents favourites (I think I was probably my Dads!).

But I genuinely don't have a favourite between my DD and DS. Just completely relationships with them both. And of course I love them with all my heart. Do you have a favourite?

I'm sure most people would say they don't but I imagine some people might do - even if they don't want to admit it.

I don't. I have 3 and they all have their bad and good points, middle child is hardest work but I love them all the same.

No definitely no favourite. I would say I do prefer spending one on one time with ds1 as he is older (2.5) and more interactive than ds2 (11 months) but I love them in different ways but equal amounts.

When I was pregnant with ds2 I couldn’t imagine loving him as much as ds1 and I worried in the back of my mind that I would always love ds1 more. Of course when he arrived I fell head over heels in love with him too and could not imagine having a favourite at all

Dd is absolutely my favourite by a long shot. But she is an only so it would be weird if she wasn’t.

I once overheard heard my three young adult sons arguing amongst themselves about which one of them was my favourite. Turns out they all thought they were my favourite, so I must have done something right

I don't actually have a favourite

They are all my favourite, at different times lol. I love them all the same, but as teenagers they can make it very difficult to like them sometimes!

I have a favourite in that I just get on much much better with one of my children than the other one. I love them both. Relationships with the children are quite different due to age and character differences but there isn’t more love or affection for one of the other. It’s all just expressed in slightly different ways etc. But I find one very easy to be around and would chose to be with that one when the choice comes up (good thing DH prefers the other one so we both end up with the child that is easier for us).

I’m pretty sure I was the favourite of both my parents... and I think my brother would ha e said the same! I only have one so he’s my favourite... we have two cats and I definitely don’t have a favourite kitty, they’re both arseholes in their own special way.

I prefer my car and dog over my kids at times. I agree with most comments. They're all my favourite at different times and relationships change as they grow older.
For example I couldn't stand my daughter a few years back but now as an adult she's a nicer person and we get on better.
Kids are tricky. Our poor parents

I have 3 dc, love them all equally & they all drive me up the wall for various reasons. All have good & bad points, as do most people 😄.

I can honestly say my sis was & still is the favourite child in my family, and it definitely felt more obvious as we got older. Because of this I was determined that none of mine would ever be made to feel less important/loved than the others.

I think it is only human nature to have a favourite. Obviously you are not going to admit it and hopefully never show it. I remember my sister saying to me once "is it ok to love your daughter but not really like her some times " and knowing my niece I completely get where she was coming from.

I have 3 children I love them all completely and for different reasons. They are my reasons for getting up in the morning and make me proud. I have poor health and like to watch them just be and can’t wait to see them grow and achieve, and hopefully avoid the health issue I have been lumbered with.

I have no favourite, they are all a blessing and I am oh so thankful each one is in my life. I make special efforts to spoil each one individually, and make them all feel special.

I dont have a fav. Sometimes one is more annoying that the other. But tbh they both annoy me in different ways.

I have a favourite one when one of my three is good lol.

Urgh. I think I might be a favourite, and it's awful. DSib is high maintenance and has caused DPs lots of worry over the years, to the point where the mention of their name elicits an eye-roll from DPs. I love DSib, and cringe at how DPs seem to favour me (in adulthood).

I often bicker totally lightheartedly with My cousins who’s my grandparents favourite and they always laugh and say more fool us they don’t like any of us 😂😂😂

My SIL has twins and has a huge preference for one of them, she says she doesn’t but I can see it. It makes me really sad :(

What's that saying - my children are always accusing me of having a favourite child but that's ridiculous as I don't like any of them

I have five dc,but don’t have a favourite. Mine range in age from 22 to 3. However, I would definitely say that personality wise I find it easier to ‘click’ with some at times rather than others. I’m fairly quiet, tidy and organised and my youngest aged three is very like me in personality. He is gentle and calm and the other day I heard him rummaging about in the bathroom and when I went in I saw that he had used up the old toilet roll when doing a wee, so had put the toilet roll in the bin and was replacing with a new toilet roll into the holder. Even my dh doesn’t always do that and my ds age 22 definitely doesn’t! He’s my little best buddy but having said that I do love them all equally in different ways