6 month old DD2 such hard work. Will not be put down.

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She's been a difficult baby compared to her elder sister. My partner works 10am-10pm 5 days a week so I'm pretty much on my own for the waking hours of the day.

DD1 slept through the night from 3 months, teeth came through pretty quick with minimal grizzling and was generally a very easy little baby.
She's 3 next month.

DD2 was born in April. She's had loads of colds, bronchitis (caught from big sister who attends nursery and obviously catches more now)
I got her into a routine super easy to begin with, 2 nice naps a day and down for bed at 7pm with her sister, although she would wake 3-4 times in the night.

Lately she WILL NOT be put down at all. Even for nappy changes she screams. It's impossible to do anything and I find my self making super quick meals for DD1 and hardly ever being able to play.
She's now having 3 to 4, 30 minute naps a day every 3hours which pushes the bedtime back until late when I'd usually get some much needed headspace time.

I'm completely scratched to hell as she has a lot of frustration in her at the moment (it must be teething) I've been to the doctor (we were also seen in hospital last week for bronchitis) and they ruled out any ear infections and told us just to wait the cough out... cough is a lot better now just the odd cough now and again.

I just feel crap all the time. I feel so alone and just rubbish. I haven't brushed my hair today/ put ANY effort on myself and I look a mess. (I seem to look a mess most days now)
I just want to cry but I have no time to.
There seems to be nothing to look forward to anymore, it's just day after day of the same thing.

We don't have any reliable parents between us for various reasons to help either. But that is what it is any I can't moan or dwell about it.
I have a sister who takes DD1 occasionally for a few hours on a Saturday which I'm really grateful for.

Does any one have any experience of siblings with this kind of age gap and a SUPER clingy/ grizzly baby and any advice (or any hope that it will smooth out soon?)

I just want the poor thing to be happy and all the blooming teeth to hurry up. I want to be able to play with my eldest so she doesn't feel so left out... make some better (not quick) meals and I'd like to not look so bloody awful every day.

I don’t have any advice but here to say I find having 2 kids (I have a 2 year age gap) - oldest about to turn 3, fucking hard. My youngest is 11 months now and a crap sleeper and the exhaustion of it all is so hard.

I Think she’s a harder baby too but in reality it’s probably that I’m more tired and have less time for her.

My only suggestion is that when your partner is off work that you get a slot of a few hours to yourself. I manage 2 hours a week!! It helps a lot.

Your baby will get better and start sleeping better.

I have been there OP. It WILL come to pass I promise. Right now, you just have to do your best to get through the day, and if that means not bothering to brush your hair or get dressed, then so be it. A slow cooker is your friend. I literally used to chuck some stuff in it and by some miracle have a lovely hot, homemade dinner come tea time. Well, most of the time haha.
Once the dreaded teeth come through things will get easier, not straight away maybe but over time you'll notice that you have had time for a shower (hooray) and then one day they'll both be at school and you'll wonder how the time went so quick.