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Was left when my baby was 3 months old.. feeling bad and insecure

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Idontknow777 · 07/11/2019 19:22

My boyfriend and I were together for four years I got pregnant last summer and gave birth in April I had a really bad delivery and we both weren’t ready to have a child but after the baby everything changed at first my boyfriend was really helpful but then at some point something changed and eventually he left me at three months Pp..

We didn’t really have any help with the baby and I think that was a huge stressor because I was getting about five hours broken up sleep at night at the most and by that I mean like I will get an hour of sleep five times throughout the night waking up in between to breast-feed my baby . it sucks but I stop trusting my boyfriend with her because he had told her to shut up shortly after she was born lost his temper quite a few times and left her in her bassinet to cry when I had him watch her for like an hour you’re in there so I didn’t like leaving her with him . He did change things like that that he did but he really didn’t know what he was doing at all and I will just got really aggravated a lot and I guess we would fight a lot because I would have to like I guess I yelled at him a lot for doing stuff wrong but he also was high like all the time which didn’t help the fact that I didn’t feel like he was responsible enough to care for her so I pretty much was taken care of a newborn baby 100% by myself and I mean now I take care of her all by myself but it’s a lot easier now than when she was a newborn she’s seven months now

he did change things like that that he did but he really didn’t know what he was doing at all and I will just got really aggravated a lot and I guess we would fight a lot because I would have to like I guess I yelled at him a lot for doing stuff wrong but he also was high like all the time which didn’t help the fact that I didn’t feel like he was responsible enough to care for her so I pretty much was taking care of a newborn baby 100% by myself and I mean now I take care of her all by myself but it’s a lot easier now than when she was a newborn she’s seven months now

When my daughter was three months old our lease was up on our house and we didn’t find a place to move into on time so we went to a hotel hoping we would find a place and a week but that didn’t happen we fight we fight a lot in the hotels and my boyfriend eventually left us in a hotel room and went to his dads house five hours away in another stree when my daughter was three months old our lease was up on our house and we didn’t find a place to move into on time so we went to a hotel hoping we would find a place in a week but that didn’t happen we will fight we fight a lot in the hotels and my boyfriend eventually left us in a hotel room and went to his dads house five hours away in another state. I eventually move back in with my moms although it’s no place for a baby as her husband smokes inside and we’re pretty much trapped in my bedroom day at night because we don’t really have like a clean area and it’s just really sucky . I take care of her all the myself and my ex and I still fight a lot he recently got arrested for doing drugs while driving and will probably lose his license for a couple months . He still blames everything on me and says it was all my fault and that I was never there for him he left me in a hotel room and he’s living at his friends now and I just feel like crap because I have a feeling he’s been hooking up with someone which really hurts me we haven’t had sex since before she was born and it just sucks for me because I don’t talk to any guys I don’t plan on it until she’s at least one or is in a day care or has childcare because right now she’s 100% under my care and there’s no way I would ever be able to even talk to you another guy right now. He still blames everything on me and says it was all my fault and that I was never there for him he left me in a hotel room and he’s living at his friends now and I just feel like crap because I have a feeling he’s been hooking up with someone which really hurts me we haven’t had sex since before she was born and it just sucks for me because I don’t talk to any guys I don’t plan on it until she’s at least one or is in a daycare has child care because right now she’s 100% under my care and there’s no way I would ever be able to even talk to you another guy right now I’m also struggling a lot because I don’t have any time for myself at all since I take care of her 100% by myself I can’t really take care of myself I look like poop pretty much every day because I don’t get more than 10 minutes to get ready I also have no money to spend on myself he gives me $700 a month and that’s all spent on the Baby gas money doing laundry at the laundry mat and food but I don’t have anything for myself and I just am feeling really bad about myself

I’m also struggling a lot because I don’t have any time for myself at all since I take care of her 100% by myself I can’t really take care of myself I look like poop pretty much every day because I don’t get more than 10 minutes to get ready I also have no money to spend on myself he gives me $700 a month and that’s all spent on the baby gas money doing laundry at the laundry mat and food but I don’t have anything for myself and I just am feeling really bad about myself

When I got pregnant I was really small I weighed 120 and then 5’5” when I gave birth I ended up gaining a lot of weight and after I gave birth to her I weigh like 150 for an hour away around 138 and I’m still getting the rest of the way off but I just feel like he just doesn’t take me seriously anymore because I kind of let myself go because I literally don’t have time to exercise I don’t have time to put make up on it when we moved I lost a lot of my things and I don’t even know where my hairdryer hair straightener is and I don’t really fit into my clothes yet so I have like a couple pairs of leggings I wear in sweaters and they just look really gross every day and I just makes me feel so bad because he’s probably out like hooking up with girls

When I got pregnant I was really small I weighed 120 and then 5‘5“ when I gave birth I ended up gaining a lot of weight and after I gave birth to her I weighed like 150 for an hour away around 138 and I’m still getting the rest of the way off but I just feel like he just doesn’t take me seriously anymore because I kind of let myself go because I literally don’t have time to exercise I don’t have time to put make up on it when we moved I lost a lot of my things and I don’t even know where my hairdryer hair straightener is and I don’t really fit into my clothes yet so I have like a couple pairs of leggings I wear in sweaters and I just look really gross every day and it just makes me feel so bad because he’s probably out like hooking up with girls

We’ve been trying to work things out but we get in fights a lot the last time I saw him was on Sunday and he smelt like perfume or hairspray so I asked him and he got really mad at me and blocked me and we haven’t talk sense and this is just what’s been happening although I don’t know if I should ever get back together with him For the way I’ve been treated I know that I wasn’t perfect but I think what he’s done is just beyond anything and just getting arrested when you have a child is really sad my daughter doesn’t even have a crib yet because I can’t afford one and I just don’t know what to do anymore

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