Does shush pat really work??

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Have been trying baby whisperer technique for sleep routine and it's not working!!

I think you need them to be on their side. And pat their bottom.
Saying 'time to sleep' or something similar.

I've only seen the Dog Whisperer - I'm guessing this isn't the same?

We did a similar thing to get the baby off his dummy and it worked in 4 nights.

I'm getting less stressed out about it. Though it did take 4 hours last night of bouncing etc. Shush pat seems more like chinese torture at this point (for me!). It's good to know that most people go through this

Baby cries. Pick up and hold until baby stops crying.
say "Shh, it's bedtime" (or words of your choosing) over and over until baby settles. We also stroked his forehead down towards his eyes. encourages him to close his eyes.
If baby cries, pick up and hold and soothe until tears stop. Put down. Repeat as necesary. we did this to get DS2, age 6 months-ish, off his dummy and learn to settle and it worked.

Cor - do you really buy a book to tell you this??

But without dismissing totally, I do remember that my baby picked up my feelings very quickly. The act of shushing, patting, singing etc is as much a means of calming mum down as it is a way to calm baby down. I have found since then that when dealing with any conflict with children you have to over-ride your own initial feelings. At any age children pick up on your emotions and feed them back to you.

Also - bouncing is quite stimulating for a baby, and it's not working if it takes 4 hours. I believe that babies need the physical contact at bedtime, but it doesn't have to be holding or rocking / bumping, sometimes holding hand, hand on chest or back, or back of head, is enough.

Has it always been like this - have you checked him with the gp - he may have an ear infection or other ailment?

I swear by it - used it very successfully with my second colicky baby and wish I'd used it for the first. The theory is small babies can't focus on more than two things at once - so the constant shushing noise combined with the rhythmic patting means they are physically no longer able to cry. Do it right and it works a treat. Check out the book or if you want a quick run-down:

colickybaby.co.uk/colic-relief-that-works-like-magic/

Good luck!

It worked for me, luv.
Once ds was sleepy enough to be put into his cot, I would stay there with my hand on his shoulder until he was fully asleep (would remove gradually... if he seemed to stir, would press more firmly). Slept through for 10 hours or so, reliably, from about 10 weeks. It all seems a long time ago now, but I remember that I would stay in the same (darkened) room as I was teaching him to sleep, rather than walk around the house as that always seemed to over-stimulate and make it harder for him to settle.

I've a 5 week old and tried it. I went back about 5 times before I got bored. I now realise hes too young to sleep train yet and iim trying to chill out about it When
I think about it though, surely it just reinforces the idea that cry and mummy comes over and over again to soothe and theu dont lesrn themselves? And who is seriously going to stick wit it up to 100 times? Also as he is still feeding 3 hrly, by the time we get to nap time, a few cycles of shush pat, he's now screaming cause he's hungry again. I've shelved it as a lost cause for now!

It certainly doesn't work with my dd, she simply gets more wound up if she can see me and I'm putting her back in the cot. If it doesn't seem to be working with your baby then suggest give it a break for a while then maybe try again in a few weeks?