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Worrying about autism

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Stressystressstress · 04/11/2019 18:43

Apologies if this thread offends anyone. It really isn’t my intention.

My older siblings both have autism, with my sister having autism and my brother being diagnosed with Aspergers and dyspraxia. My mum is most likely on the spectrum (judging by her behaviour). My mum has a twin sister who has a son with severe autism.

Clearly there is a genetic link in my family. I have a DD who is 8 months and so far, is not showing signs of the condition although it is really early days. I am 11 weeks pregnant and worrying that this DC will have the condition.

A lot of my childhood was spent listening to my mum screaming and crying down the phone to social workers as she couldn’t cope with my siblings (who have turned out wonderfully despite unsupportive parents).

I don’t feel like I am an adequate enough parent to handle a child with the condition. I don’t want to be like my mother.

What are the chances of DC2 having autism and how do I cope if they do? My mum has so many difficulties getting support for my siblings in the 80s and 90s but she’s wasn’t a great parent herself either...

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CaptainKirksSpikeyGhost · 04/11/2019 18:53

Hey, as you know it's is very probable your child might have autism, nobody can give you percentages or anything like that.

But you have to remember you are not your mother, You know what it was like being on the receiving end of your mothers inability to cope, so you will put extra effort into not showing it to your children.
Your siblings turning out wonderfully, was that, in part, due to you?

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