Single mum... possible new relationship?

[MamaOl]

I’ve got a 2.5 year old, father isn’t on the scene never has been.. I’ve gone back to work recently and I’ve met someone I like.. sometimes I think he likes me too, other times I don’t know if he’s just being friendly...

We’ve added each other on Facebook and always go on our breaks together. Straight after we added each other on FB he got his phone out and said “oh, no hot girl has messaged me” and another time he said he isn’t sure if he has time for a relationship but I get other vibes from him when he says I’m in same day as you so I’ll see you then.. going on breaks together.. playfully teasing me as I do to him etc.. and he looked through all my pictures on Facebook when I added him..

Opinions please? Been out of the dating world for 3+ years I have no idea!

Oh girl, he likes you! Enjoy! Do you want a relationship relationship or a bit of fun? He's obviously up for fun! That thing about no time for a relationship? Could be true, but sometimes people say stuff like that to test the waters iyswim.

It sounds to me like he likes you

@deathbysnusnu I want a relationship, being a mum I’m past just having “fun” haha! Thank you.. that would be lovely if it’s true! What makes you think this, if you don’t mind? Just so I know I wasn’t overthinking 😊 TIA x

Gah, I think I misread! I read it as, "oh no! hot girl (you) has messaged me". Did he actually say it to mean nobody hot (you) had messaged him? Because that's not very nice.

But!!! I'm a massive believer in judging people by their actions rather than words and it sounds like there is chemistry there lol. X

@deathbysnusnu No one had messaged him, neither had I, but he made a point of saying “no hot girl has messaged me” after I had added him on Facebook x

Well there is only one way to know which is to suggest a date and see what happens? Although the comment you mentioned before sounds quite rude and also a bit immature. Does he seek you out to talk to you at work? Does he listen to you, pay you compliments, that sort of thing? The other thing to think about if it doesn't work out and then you are in the workplace together which might be awkward. Also some workplaces have rules about colleagues dating. Hmm I'd chalk this one up to a friendly work mate and keep looking if I were you...

@dingdang We were at work yesterday and he remembered something I’d told him 2 weeks ago so I’d say he does listen to me? I could be getting this entirely wrong 😔

I'm old and don't pussy foot around so I'd ask him on a date and see what his reaction is. This will tell you what he thinks! I fully appreciate that this takes a certain amount of confidence though, but will stop the second guessing

@dingdang a lot of confidence! Especially for me who hasn’t dated in a long time