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10 months: very clingy, teething molars, bfeeding constantly, hates buggy and carseat

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LeeMiller · 04/11/2019 07:03

DS is 10 months and for the past couple of weeks has been getting increasingly clingy.
I know this is prime separation anxiety age and he's also teething his first molars (can feel the first one) and clearly suffering and in pain even with Calpol and gel.

  • he hates being strapped into buggy, screams hysterically in carseat if he's the slightest bit tired, makes no difference if I'm in the back with him or not, though better with DH strapping him in than me.
  • eating much much less than normal, prefers finger foods and refusing spoon. Breastfeeding every 2-3 hours and throughout night, feels like feeding a newborn again, will only sleep on me at night.
  • cries if I leave the room or even stand up, wants to be held and carried all the time, will stay with DH or grandparents but wants me after a short while.

Is there anything I should be doing or if it's just a case of giving him time? I've been going with it, letting him bfeed as much as he wants and using the sling instead of the buggy. Any ideas for carseat? And should I be telling him if I leave the room (in which case he'll cry a lot, but is safe with DH or grandma), or getting others to distract him then sneaking off? I've been using the second tactic but just read Janet Lansbury saying you should do the opposite...

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user1468348545 · 04/11/2019 11:10

Following with interest as my 9 month DD is identical. Hope you don't mind op xx

ClaraLane · 04/11/2019 11:15

It’s completely normal but incredibly frustrating! I think it depends on what you’re going out of the room for - I used to just sneak off if it was for a wee or a shower but if I would be gone for any length of time then I’d tell my daughter I was leaving. It’s bloody hard work but just do what seems to be working for you and try not to overthink it. There were times I left my daughter crying in her cot so I could have the quickest shower known to womenkind because I needed to feel clean for my own sanity!

LeeMiller · 04/11/2019 13:18

Of course not user, misery loves company Wink

Thanks Clara. I guess we will sit it out then, I don't mind but I am getting sick of the 'rod for your own back' comments regarding using the sling instead of buggy, cosleeping, regular bfeeding etc and starting to doubt myself.

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LeeMiller · 04/11/2019 13:22

If I leave when he's playing and distracted he seems happy for a while at least, whereas if he sees me or DH (to a lesser extent) leave it's guaranteed screaming. I don't want to prolong the separation anxiety by deceiving him but it seems less stressful for us both that way.

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