Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Parenting

For free parenting resources please check out the Early Years Alliance's Family Corner.

Feel guilty

2 replies

potatopotato12 · 03/11/2019 08:26

My sister has a new boyfriend. I'm really happy for her. She doesn't get to see much of us anymore because he lives away - and she visits him mostly (they don't live together yet).

Recently I feel she expects us to drop tools when they're this way instead of his home town. She's like I'm home, and coming over. I got so upset yesterday as I've had a really busy week, I've got my own life too - 2 under 2, married - and she wanted to come over. I said no and she said I was rude - saying she was away next weekend. Told her tough 🤷🏻‍♀️. I feel nasty and guilty.

It's difficult. She doesn't have kids either and doesn't understand naps , and that we can't just hang out anytime. I feel like we're on different planets. I've tried to organise something with her and she just wants to be spontaneous.

OP posts:
horse4course · 03/11/2019 08:33

I'd just give her the times you're available and she can lump it. Explain the consequences of 'spontaneity' and that it won't be this way forever.

I used to be this younger sister, got a bit better when I had kids of my own! You're just on different planets at the moment.

If she still doesn't get it, can she spend a whole weekend with you so she sees how relentless it is?

potatopotato12 · 03/11/2019 09:07

Yeah - a whole weekend would be an eyeopener.

OP posts:
New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.

This thread is closed and is no longer accepting replies. Click here to start a new thread.