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potatopotato12 · 03/11/2019 08:26

My sister has a new boyfriend. I'm really happy for her. She doesn't get to see much of us anymore because he lives away - and she visits him mostly (they don't live together yet).

Recently I feel she expects us to drop tools when they're this way instead of his home town. She's like I'm home, and coming over. I got so upset yesterday as I've had a really busy week, I've got my own life too - 2 under 2, married - and she wanted to come over. I said no and she said I was rude - saying she was away next weekend. Told her tough 🤷🏻‍♀️. I feel nasty and guilty.

It's difficult. She doesn't have kids either and doesn't understand naps , and that we can't just hang out anytime. I feel like we're on different planets. I've tried to organise something with her and she just wants to be spontaneous.

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horse4course · 03/11/2019 08:33

I'd just give her the times you're available and she can lump it. Explain the consequences of 'spontaneity' and that it won't be this way forever.

I used to be this younger sister, got a bit better when I had kids of my own! You're just on different planets at the moment.

If she still doesn't get it, can she spend a whole weekend with you so she sees how relentless it is?

potatopotato12 · 03/11/2019 09:07

Yeah - a whole weekend would be an eyeopener.

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