Bad behaviour in a 23 month old grandson

[SukiKarisma2005]

My daughter is frantic, her son is mis behaving constantly. He is being monitored at nursery school, he kicks, bites, hits and throws anything to hand. Has temper tantrums. School say it’s just process of growing but how much can you take. He misbehaves with us but for some reason we can control him. My son in law is totally embarrassed with the whole situation and now it makes me feel like I don’t want to visit unless invited as he seems to get stroppy with us. They are even thinking of him not being allowed to go to birthday parties as they are afraid he will do all the above and never be invited anywhere. When he is good he is a very loving gorgeous little boy.
Any advice please.

As well as working with the school on consistent strategies, it is also worth her talking to her Health visitor
What they (Nursery and HV, together with his Mum) need to establish is what is causing him to behave like this - are there different parenting strategies that might help, or is there some underlying, as yet unrecognised special need that is causing him to behave like this.

She has the professionals there to ask for help - it is better to work together now while he is young and see if they can change his behaviour together.

He's very young still. Is he not talking yet? It's common for kids to get very frustrated just before they're verbal. Once they can communicate, things get better.

Sounds like my DS, he's always the kid that pulled hair, hit, threw his toys etc. He still does do it especially as I've now got a newborn but he is so much better.

18-24 months was the worst he has me in tears when out numerous times. I had to just helicopter over him constantly. If he did it, I removed him/toy from the situation.

As he started to talk he got much better and seems to have grown up a lot.

Just be consistent and he'll eventually get that it's not acceptable