Too embarrassed to go to baby groups

[Newmum33]

My son is 8 weeks old and weighs 15lb 13oz. He was 11lb 4.5oz at birth and has remained steady on the 98th centile.

I know his healthy and his weight isn't anything to worry about but im so embarrassed that his this big.

Im overweight but short 5"2, my husband is 6"4.

I can't bring myself to go to baby groups as im worried I'll be judged about his size or the talk of the group. I can see people I know thinking im overfeeding him and making comment after comment about his size.

Has anyone else had this?

People will always pass comment on your kids, my DS is 4 and my DD is 2. They are both really tall as DH is tall.

Literally every single person we meet from DS being a newborn says “oh isn’t he so tall” and DD they say “oh look at her blue eyes”. Several times a week

People just like to make conversation and they pick a fairly complimentary (to them anyway) attribute to comment on. My friends kids it’s “look at their hair” or “she’s such a little doll”. My friend’s child had one of those helmets and hardly anyone ever mentioned it

If you want to go to baby group for you then go. If you don’t want to go cos it’s not your thing then don’t. I made wonderful friends there, but I get it’s not for everyone

OP people will comment on his size because there is very little else to say when looking at a baby.

They will also say how beautiful they are even if your baby looks like a wisened old man . It’s just what people do.

My first two babies could have passed for footballs - I used to laugh and say they were built to survive the winter.

I'm 5ft2 and my youngest is massive- 98th for height and 91st for weight we do get people saying he's a big boy but only in a nice way, they're more likely to mention his eyes and hair
I think people just like to compliment babies xx

Both my sons were completely bald at birth and stayed that way. DS2 is 2.5 and still bald, I can't imagine him with hair now! People always always always comment on it but who cares? Our children are beautiful whether they are big, small, chunky or teeny, baldy or born with a mop of hair. Don't worry what anybody thinks.

Nobody will judge but people will mention that he is big. As others have said- you are group of mums with nothing in common except babies maybe- baby hair/ eyes/ size are going to form polite making conversation. My dd was born with a head full of dark hair- it was mentioned a lot - easy conversation starter.

Don't read too much into it or you will miss our potentially making some new friends.

I had a humongous baby like that! People make loads of comments but they're never mean spirited - more in awe of the cute chubbiness and leg rolls and cankles. The same happens with particularly teeny babies with people gushing over how precious and dinky they are without realising the parents may feel sensitive because their baby was premature/not feeding well etc.

It's not like a larger eight year old (for example) when any idiots who pass comment are probably not being kind.

Don't let this put you off, I'm pretty certain you'll feel so much better after you've been. It's good to get out and socialise, isolation isn't good a for a new mum. If he's as tall as his dad, you're going to have years of people commenting on how tall he is. Mine were teeny babies (and they're twins as well) and are now 6ft teens. We went from 'there like proper babies but smaller' to 'isn't he tall?' at least once a week since toddlers.

It's just chit chat, nobody's taking that much notice.