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[firstmummy1]

i have a beautiful 17 month old who i adore and wouldnt even imagine of hurting him but sometimes i get so angry of course as mums we all do its normal and i just wait till im calm but today i tried to give him medicine and he spat it out and it went all over his new pjs just after bathtime and on his neck and ears and i just screamed and he got scared and screamed and cried and i am in tears eversince i feel terrible that i scared him. has anybody done such a thing? how did you stop?

I think most mums have said or done things in anger we regret. In my experience it's the depth of the regret that stops me doing it again. You saw your little boy was scared and you knew deeply that this was not right for either of you. You will feel this angry and frustrated again, so you need to make a plan about how you will react next time. I would suggest you take some time out for yourself when feelings run this high, just make sure he is completely safe then take a few minutes to leave the room, gather yourself and calm down.

Don’t beat yourself up @firstmummy1, you didn’t actually hurt your baby, he just got a bit startled. I’d agree with taking yourself off of you feel yourself getting angry again, and try to make time for yourself generally too. If you need help, ask for it from someone you trust not to make you feel bad - no parent should feel bad for wanting a break.