Third baby - in shock

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Apologies if this is the wrong place to post or if this upsets anyone but I've just found out am expecting DC3. I'm in complete shock and cant believe what's happened. Im shaking. Im on the pill which I take religiously .Older DC are 6 and 1, I've just gone back to work and weve started to come through the other side. Dc2 is an appalling sleeper but we can just about cope. Keeping the baby would mean another section, giving up my job (which I love but childcare for two would be more than I earn) and an end to so many of plans. I just dont feel I'm a good enough mum to cope with 3 especially as DC2 is still so young. And yet I'm nor sure I could go through with a termination. I had one at 18 but that felt like entirely different circumstances . DH didnt want a third but feels we should keep baby but ultimately is my decision. I know nobody can tell me what to do but please if you've been in a similar situation can you tell me what you did and how it worked out.

I can't advise you as I've not been in the same situation- just sending 💕

Hi.

Sorry i haven't been in your position but I too would struggle making the right choice. Termination is a big decision to make.

I do think that you need to do what feels right. If the thought of another baby fills you with dread, then continuing with the pregnancy is not right for you.

Write down the pros and cons? See if that helps?

Good luck - hope you can find a solution

Hi, I have been in a similar position with my forth, I hadn't had a period after my third and took a test just to rule it out. I was in shock to say the least and knew I wouldn't be able to afford the child care cost. We talked about a termination but decided against it as it didn't feel right and I've had one previously so it wasn't because I'm against it. I would not make a quick decision (depending on how far along obviously). You need time to digest it as it's hard to see the woods for the trees when you are in a panic, then you may be able to make the right chose for your family. I had 13 months between them and survived so it is possible but it's hard initially until they are better sleepers. Plus we have had to cut back on spending and doing the things or buying things the way we previously did but the kids are happy so that's all that matters

I was in a similar position with my second, only i had a 23year age gap between my Dd's and I didn't find out I was pregnant until I was nearly 5mths. Shock is a understatement.
Dd2 is the best thing to happen to us.
Good luck with whatever you decide.

Thank you for your kind replies. I'm no further to making a decision really. On one hand the idea of three older children is lovely and I enjoy primary age DC but I find the baby / toddler years very hard. Financially whilst we'd still be fine we would have to make cutbacks again and selfishly I dont feel like I want the baby enough to be prepared to do that.