Do you ever wish you had stopped at one child and if so why?

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I don't mean do you regret your other children I know no- one regrets their children but do you ever wonder what your life would have been like if you had stopped at one?

Sometimes. The eldest is a dream child, he’s well behaved, kind, caring, clever and hard working and has never given us a moment’s bother. The youngest is lovely and I adore him as much as his brother but he’s autistic and although he’s high functioning it’s a challenge and a lot of anxiety and worry being his parent. Sometimes I do think how much more straightforward my life would have been if I’d stopped after the first, although I love my second and his difficulties aren’t his fault

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Similar to 57Varieties. DS is a dream child, dd has ASD and life is challenging for her and for all of us because of that. I often feel bad for ds for doing this to him.

Pregnancy number 2 resulted in children 2 and 3.
I love them to bits obviously but twins resulted in me not being able to work for 4 years due to childcare costs has set us back somewhat.
Being a family of 5 is expensive

Sorry to hear about your dcs Asd.. that must be tough

Twins frightens me!

I had an only child until he was ten, when I then two more within 18 months. Life with just one was infinitely easier and it was lovely to have one-on-one time with him, plus we had the time to still be a couple, and I could focus on myself too, but I adore life as a five. While having three, especially two so close together, has been hard work, it also makes my heart sing. Whatever you decide, it will be the right thing for you.

I had my youngest when my eldest was 2, so there wasn't a huge amount of time with just one child for me. I honestly don't know any different now.

I'm glad I had my second DS. It has meant a lot of sacrifices, and the first few years with two DC was hard going. But I still think it was for the best. My mat leave with my youngest allowed me to bond with my eldest in a way I didn't really feel like I'd been able to do before. I'd had a horrible birth experience with my first and he was a nightmare baby, so I was glad to have positive experiences of those with my youngest. Circumstances in my life worked out that I was able to go part time and be home with my DC in the daytime when I went back to work after my youngest. I probably wouldn't have gone part time if I'd just had my eldest and while I no doubt would have had more money, I would have been working shifts and weekends and never been home with DS.

I do think about what it would have been like with just one, but I honestly believe it's been better for us having two.