Why dies my 8 week old hate sleeping in my arms

[Hel1985]

My little girl is 8 weeks old and hates sleeping in my arms 😔 I usually have to put her in her rocker or pushchair to help her to sleep. I'm dedoerste for her to sleep in my arms and have cuddles. I get so envious when I see sleeping babies in their mothers arms. My little girl just squirms and screams when i try. I must be doing something wrong.

Some babies just don't. They are individuals, after all! My DD has never been the kind of baby who needs cuddled to sleep - she was always happier just being put in her Moses basket or cot. Now she's 9mo we have cuddles when she's awake!

My daughter was just like this! Hated being cuddled to sleep, just wanted her own space. She’s 2.5 now & she’s still exactly the same. She never falls asleep on you, even when poorly and comes for a cuddle, she eventually asks to go back to bed. She also hates sleeping in our bed as we get in her way 😂

In all honesty, it’s not the worst thing as they get older & you want a bit of freedom back. From 3 months, we were able to pop our daughter down to sleep at night & she’d just settle herself so we could go off, make dinner, watch the telly and have the evenings to ourselves! And she always has been a fantastic self settler at bedtime. We just say goodnight & leave her too it! It’s really nice after work to have that down time with my OH in the evening still. Whereas I’ve watched my sister in law have to lay or cuddle her son from 7pm-9pm and have very little time to herself for the last 4 years! It’s been hard for her!

Enjoy the cuddles while she’s awake and also don’t stress if she’s not the cuddliest baby even then. My daughter wasn’t until she turned 18 months but now she comes running and gives you huge hugs and cuddles

My DS was exactly the same, he HATED being cuddled at sleep time. My DD had always fed/cuddled to sleep so it took a while to figure out what he wanted. It's nothing you are doing wrong, babies are just all different! Get your cuddles while you can when she's awake. My DS is now a very lovely and cuddly teen but I know this won't last.

My baby never fell asleep in our arms, or fell asleep when he was feeding. We've always been able to pretty much put him down in his rocking chair or bed and he'll put himself to sleep. He's the envy of our NCT mums for this as 8 months on they're desperately trying to break these sleep habits whereas we never had them in the first place. I know you think you're doing something wrong but everyone else probs wonders what they're doing wrong when they look at your baby happily asleep in the pram - it's just all about perspective. Get your cuddles when she's awake :)

Mine was like this; she’s still not a ‘lap baby’ (even when very little she hated beibg held still; she either had to be in her bouncy chair or being walked around looking over our shoulders).

However she has always self settled for bed and at 11 month is now starting to actively put her arms round us for a cuddle which is lovely - so there is light at the end of the tunnel!

Apparently I was like this, I still prefer to sleep alone! DS was a velcro baby and still is when over tired or poorly, which is exhausting, especially when he wants to be held and cries if you don't, then you pick him up and he fights you to get down and repeat over and over.

When my baby was a newborn she wouldn't sleep in my arms and I felt exactly as you did when seeing snuggly babies.
5 months later and I now can't put her down to nap without her waking up and crying...and I'm starting to realise how good I had it.
Jokes aside....there are pros and cons to both and she may end up being a cuddly baby. Regardless she still loves you and hopefully this is a sign of her feeling happy and secure x

Every baby is different OP. You couldn’t hold my baby in your arms the traditional way, always likes being held against ones shoulder, coinciding with the fact she’s always liked sleeping on her tummy (we didn’t allow when she was very little, had to put her on her tummy then turn her round)