Am I in the wrong?

[Kelwar]

Hi guy, got a bit of a situation going on.. with my MIL (again).. is like to start by saying that I do love her dearly and she is very much a part of our lives.. but.... she is of elderly age but very Spritely still.. my husband helps and supports her in every way possible.. new light bulbs.. lighting her fire..fixing her computer.. walking her dog if she is a way.. house sitting.. you name it.. we are there.. her lovely dog is very very old.. she can’t see properly anymore.. she is deaf, she can’t walk far because she collapsed in the park a few months ago and her back legs keep giving way.. imo her quality of life is over.. she has even had accidents in the house because she can’t make it to outside.. twice before last night my husband has stayed at his mums as she has been so upset about how poorly her dog is.. (we have two young children and a dog of our own so lots going on here too..) last night we had all gone to bed when the phone rang at 11pm could my husband go down there.. which he did.. he slept on the sofa and watched the dog all night.. got up early and went to work.. and still she won’t make the decision to euthanase the poor dog.. I understand it is the most difficult decision to make.. but how long is my husband supposed to get these night time call outs? He’s exhausted today... am I being a bit unfair?

You need to take the dog to the vets .
Go with your MIL and DH . If the vet feels the time has come to euthanize her beloved pet they will say so .

Yes that’s probably the most sensible thing to do.. thank you

Has he, might be better from him, ever told her the poor thing can’t go on like that?
Or asked why he needs to get out of bed drive to hers and sleep on the sofa with her dog all night? Even an elderly dog that’s not doing the best doesn’t need a night nurse just someone to set an alarm for x o’clock n get up to let them out.

If the dog itself hasn’t been checked over either it might be in need of pain killers at the very least, we lost our 19year old family dog.. he’d been deaf for while with cataracts but still ran wild like a pup until he damaged his tendons in his knee at 18ish, he improved with pain killers dramatically but without them he looked like he was on his last legs. Vets are reluctant to say Pts as they know the reaction but atleast they’d give an honest opinion.

No he hasn’t really.. nobody tells her the truth as she has a tendency to react badly..
the dog has been to the vets and is on loxicom and another tablet but it’s just not really working.. she has moments where she potters around but mostly my mother in law is picking her up to get her to the garden

If she’s already on loxicom and tramadol, that’s all they could give our guy, once it stopped working it’s their time. Poor things obviously in pain. Unfortunately she might just need to have her tantrum n realise it’s no longer fair on the dog. I don’t know if it’s better from him or not, I know our family drama queen wouldn’t listen to an “outsider”.

Yes I def don’t think I can say anything.. last time I said something many years ago it caused a family rift for a whole year so I try and keep my mouth shut now but it is infuriating