Just sent DS to bed...am loosing control!!!

[Nemo2007]

it seems like no matter what I do with him his behaviour is horrendous. Am I a bad mother???? I have turned into this screeching banshee as he completely ignores me any other time.
He has been with FIL for 4hrs today and was great, in a lovely mood so I brough him home and decided to make cakes with him as he asked yesterday. So we make the cakes, all lovely and we were sitting watching power rangers. Next thing he just starts acting up and hasnt stopped since. I was trying to talk to him calmly, I was putting him in time out for hitting his sisters, screeching, telling me to shut up etc etc etc. He asked for spaghetti on toast for tea so I did it but he then refused to eat it.I said thats fine but there is no pudding unless you eat cue more tantrums. More time out where he started throwing things at me which was the point I shouted at him. I just dont know what to do with him anymore and it is reducing me to tears, where has my lovely little boy gone??? Instead he is replaced by this demonic 3.10yr old.

I don't know franny, have you had the urge to eat party rings and drink pepsi max?

ermmmmm

no

sorry for very rude hijack but are you around to look at my style thread? it only concerns skirts very slightly

To try to be more helpful to Nemo than my last rude posts, it could be that although he had fun with his FIL it was a bit wearing for him and involved him being on his 'good' behaviour. This usually results in chronic behaviour for the usual carer when the child is returned. It is dreadful for you but means that he feels secure with you and can act out all his frustrations and tiredness. I do hope tomorrow is a better day.

I have thrown a scooter in the dustbin in anger after my DS wound me up so much on the school run that I was so frustrated that I threw it in the bin whilst he stood there screaming!! I got it out when he went to bed and hid it in the garage and he didn't get it back for about 6 weeks. But the worst day I ever had was when it was tea time and my DD and DS had cous cous for tea and they were sitting at the little ELC table and chairs eating and one of them dropped a whole plate of cous cous on the floor. I had just completely completely cleared up the whole house and had just sat down. I really saw red and picked up the table and kicked it across my front room - cous cous and all. Made the matter even worse as I spread the cous cous even further. As you know cous cous sticks to everything and is really hard to clear up. That shut the kids up tho. That is the worst thing I can ever remember doing. I was really shocked at my behaviour as I scared the life out of them. But I just lost it.

Well all in bed then had a bath afterwards instead of with them as putting 3 under 4 in at once is enough of a task..lol
Ds came to talk to me while I was in the bath which was nice so am going to try and let him have half hour every night after girls are in bed and see if it makes a difference.
I think if it was only one day then it wouldnt be too bad but its been going on month and a bit now and he also isnt sleeping of a night, he wakes up more than the other two do!!

I have taken various toys and 'binned' them only for them to make a reappearance later.Tried really hard today to not loose patience but it didnt work..lol
Oh well tommorow is another day.

Time to recharge the batteries and let battles commence tomorrow.

pmsl thats about right!!

Hugs from me darling, no advice as Jessi isnt that old yet, but she can throw the mother of tantrums too - and when she does, its bedroom until she has calmed down.

She actually calls down now saying she has calmed down and will we go and talk to her so she can say sorry.

Tomorrow will be better xx

my ds2 was the same.i think boys go through the terrible 3's rather than the terrible 2's.

that said,ds2 had speech+language problems and was reffered to the speech therapist by nursery.after various appointments at clinics/hospital he was found to have glue ear and the consultant said he probably hadnt been able to hear properly since he was 2.he had grommets fitted 3 weeks ago and had turned into an angel(well,almost).his speech and vocabulary have improved and he no longer gets frustrated like he used to.

im not saying there is anything 'wrong' with your ds,just wondering if anything like that had been looked into?

fwiw i ended up sending ds1(9.7)to bed early tonight for whinging and generally behaving like a toddler.bloody summer hols!

diva now its funny you say about the grommits as my sisters both needed them and today I was wondering if DS needed some as he is always saying what, what did you say etc etc Might get that checked aswell with gp to rule it out.