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Curlygirly · 27/10/2019 09:40

Ds1 is nearly 17. Just started part time job that fits in with school. Obviously minimum wage. I'm so excited for him as it's a fun type job working with other young people. All he does is complain about the shit money and it's boring but making absolutely no effort to find anything else. He's so lazy and not interested in working which is the complete opposite of me & dh. Every time we try to talk about it he storms off. How do I get him to understand that he needs to work to fund the lifestyle he would like and feels entitled to????

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auntpoll · 27/10/2019 10:22

I'd just leave him to it. Don't waste your energy trying to convince him. When he grows up a bit he'll realise the work/lifestyle dynamic for himself. I know it's tough to watch, I've been there twice now my DS's are 22 and 24! But they do grow up in the end.

Curlygirly · 27/10/2019 17:37

It really is tough to watch. Another new phase of parenting!

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XXcstatic · 27/10/2019 17:41

In fairness, at least he is doing the job, even if he is whinging.

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Elieza · 27/10/2019 18:00

At least he is only 17 and is currently working. Even if he moans!

Sounds like he has had a lot of stuff growing up and expects this provision to continue. Lack of stuff (usually computer games, brand name trainers etc) is a good motivator! Once he realises that it won’t unless he saves up and buys it himself he will change.

Don’t whatever you do say he’s not getting any more whatever because he is working now. He will jack in the job thinking you will give him stuff if he’s not working as he wasn’t before and got stuff....
You could leave as is just now and tell him when he’s 18 that there will be no more stuff so he can go without or keep working.

Cuddling57 · 27/10/2019 18:03

Blimey I don't think that's lazy - I'm impressed he is working!

Curlygirly · 27/10/2019 19:00

At 16 I couldn't wait to get a Saturday job and loved it. He is so different than me in every way!

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