Interfering MIL what to do?

[Supermum11]

Ok so since I've had my DD my mother in law and has been really interfering with how I bring up my daughter it's making me so annoyed she used to tell me I should ignore my dd when she was crying when she was a newborn at only a week old my daughter is now 15 months old and I'm still brestfeeding her and she keeps asking when I'm going to give up she's never approved of me bf she used to tut and shake her head whenever she was a baby and I would feed her I try to be more discreet now and feed her in the car or in another room to the mIL

but the thing that annoys me the most is she keeps having a go at my husband as as We I co sleep with our child who is 15 months old and she disapproves she thinks that a newborn baby should sleep in her own cot in a separate room to you as soon as you bring it home from hospital and my daughter still co sleeps with me and my DH what do you think about this does anyone else co sleep? My DH saw her and his sisters today without me and they had a go at him about co sleeping which has really annoyed me as it's got nothing to do with them and now husband thinks she shouldn't be in with us anymore but I love cuddling her at night it's my choice and there is no right way of parenting his family just want to criticise me as a mum and my parenting because hate me what should I do? Shall I say something to his family? They never really say much to me about it I feel it's really two faced and bitchy!! I'm so annoyed 😠

Sounds really annoying tbh.

I cosleep and I absolutely love it. I know my ex in laws think I shouldn't and particularly ex MIL has been very opinionated about my parenting but now I just shake it off.

Being a parent is hard enough without having to deal with peoples unwanted opinions. As long as your baby is safe and you're happy, keep doing what you're doing.

Perhaps chat to DH about being a bit more in your corner when it comes to them? Xx

Yea she sounds irritating but I'm also on the no to co-sleeping bench. I think it's dangerous and makes a rod for your own back. Sorry

I can see where she is coming from but the approach she is taking is wrong and rude. It’s down to you how you raise your child but I think it might be time to admit your DD is nearly a toddler and not a baby so it’s time to make the transition to big bed etc. That’s my opinion. If your MIL was
Mine she would be banned from my house xx

Pff I have coslept for a lot longer than that. It needs to work for everyone though. Talknwitj your husband and ask him why he thinks you need to stop. And why you want to continue. They are little for a short time... make sure she has her room and option of her own bed but I don't see the need to force the move personally.

You need a one liner than you repeat until she learns to stick her nose out. It’ll be harder to change her behaviour if you have been putting up with it and modifying your own behaviour for over a year. But still an opportunity to sort it out now.

Try: “we shall parent our child as we see fit, as her parents”, or a simple “it’s none of your business” or “how does my sleep habits affect you?”

Sorry you’ve had to endure it. Stop putting up with it! It’s destructive and when your kid is older she’ll start directing the comments straight at the kid and that will truly break your heart.