Co-sleeping

[jessesmam]

Hi, just wanting some advise...

My DS is 11 months old. I give birth at 35 weeks due to preeclampsia had such a traumatising birth. He was such a unhappy baby from newborn to 8 months. Had severe colic, bad reflux. I always kept him close to me. It was so hard for me to put him down in his crib without crying constantly, my partner worked away at Germany too so I was alone often. I found it easier to have my son in my bed, he would sleep much better and so would I so I got in the routine of it and now it's stuck. He will not sleep on his own at all, even when he naps during the day. When he's at nursery they are even telling me I need to sleep train him!! My mam is also giving me a hard time and it's making me think I'm a bad parent! Has anyone got any advise to make me feel better! Thank you

Jesses mam. X

I read ‘three in a bed’ early on in pregnancy and it made a lot of sense that co-sleeping is a very natural thing. I’m still co-sleeping with my 22 month old and in about 5 weeks when we have our next baby they will be joining the family bed. I have no doubt my children will transition to their own beds when they are ready and until then I feel we have all gotten better sleep this way.

Im an A+E nurse, 99% of all peadiatric arrests that come through the doors are due to co-sleeping. Im so against it because of that.

You're not a bad parent, you're doing what your son needs. However there needs to come a time where you need to have a firmer hand with him

Im an A+E nurse, 99% of all peadiatric arrests that come through the doors are due to co-sleeping.

Due to cosleeping, or due to cosleeping unsafely like on a sofa, with a drunk adult, with duvet/pillows etc? There's a big difference.

Lotsofoysters- totally agree. If done safely and within guidelines then from what I understand there is no increased risks with co-sleeping