14 week old breast fed baby - how much time should the dad have

[Mumontheedge1]

Help - My daughter is living with me and has a 14 week old breast fed baby - the father wants to take the baby out several days a week for 6-8 hours at a time - which is ridiculous as the baby is demand breast fed. The relationship has broken down between daughter and ex partner
solicitor has advised daughter to offer 1 hour once or twice a week as demand feeding - does anyone have advice as to how to deal fairly in this challenging situation

Will baby take expressed (and can mum do so?)

Then maybe offer a 2 hour slot.

Father needs to be realistic as to what is best for child but mother does need to facilitate some reasonable access

That sounds tough. I would go with what solicitor said, that’s the advice you’re paying for after all.

Ex can get advice from his own solicitor and if he kicks of suggest that to him. (Who will never agree with him on his 6-8 hours several times a week wish anyway.)

I would take the solicitor’s advice.

Lawyers advice is reasonable. Get it in writing then if he doesn't return her on time push to use a contact centre. Mum's stress will impact baby more than the actual contact which she'll probably sleep through (wish I'd known this at the time).

WE went through using a Contact centre first so ex and Dd could build a bond as it wasn't working at my home. We then moved onto a soft play area where I stayed out of the way but was there if needed. DD was a year old when the court ordered 2 hour unsupervised contact a couple of times a week which then gradually extended by 30 mins every month or so. Eventually it was 10-5. Court said overnights needn't start untill Dd was 4. Once she started school it was 3-6 once a week and EOW. By that time we had become more flexible with contact to suit exs work schedule and Dd didn't like sleeping away from home so he returned her each night and picked up again in the morning.

Ex and my relationship had completely broken down, however Dd is now 10 and whilst he was a rubbish bf he is a good dad. SOver the years he has had to learn how to care for Dd independently and they have a special bond so it can work. Her time with him is my time to recharge, I've learnt to drive and studied an OU degree in those hours. Looking back I think most of my concerns were because she was my PFB and as a more experienced mum I wouldn't even blink at some of the stuff that caused me sleepless nights back then, babies are far hardier than we give them credit for. I hope your Dd and her ex can reach a mutual agreement although I know it's not easy especially when DC are so young.