Baby nest/cocoon safe overnight sleeping

[tami2k]

FTM breastfeeding 4wk baby refuses to sleep in his chicco next2me.. Have slept an hour or two a night I'm desperate to get him to sleep 😭 can anyone suggest any baby nests that are safe for overnight sleeping?
We don't mind spending £ as long as it's safe (and we can sleep)
I've had a look at the sleepyhead and read mixed opinions on this

None of them are safe for overnight sleep, sorry

Will he sleep next to you? Safe bedsharing is an option and was what saved me! (husband was in spare room quite a lot!)

It really is very normal for them to not sleep long stretches. Is your DS dad around to take baby for a couple of hours at a time so you can get a chunk of sleep? We used to do shifts so I could get maybe 6 hours a night in two sections so I could at least survive.

@Harrysmummy246 I am breastfeeding him 100% so I can't palm him off to my partner not for long anyway as he feeds little and often so doesn't sleep long stints. I am seriously considering giving him the bottle at night.
This is actually giving me anxiety as soon as it becomes night 😖
I've thought abt safe co sleeping - will my baby go back to his crib as they find comfort quickly

Ah I could feed then hand Ds back. Bottle at night will affect your supply long term. And seriously it's easier to just pop a boob in than make a bottle once you've both got the hang of it

Google the 4th trimester - 4 weeks ago he was inside you; not wanting to sleep in the crib is much more common at this age than sleeping in it.

Have you got the nack of feeding lying down?www.lullabytrust.org.uk/safer-sleep-advice/co-sleeping/
Some advice on safe co sleeping.

What we did is got a sling. I did the early evening feed (7-8 ish), dh put them in sling to sleep downstairs (he walked around and watched films), brought them to me at 10, the. Took them back until 12-1, then we switched. I would stay up and hold and wear them as needed until morning. They wouldn’t lie down and sleep even next to me at that age. But it meant I got 4-6 hours of sleep a night and could cope.

A safe sleeping surface is your bed or is an attached co sleeper cot is probably safer than these pillowy sleepyhead things. But it may mean some adjustments. My dh slept on a mattress on the floor with our first (so I had the whole bed) or in a separate room for a bit with our 2nd (he could get up with older one without waking me). Eventually we moved to a big family bed (single and double together, and he slept in the single side, which has worked great through 2 dc).

My baby slept soundly in a sleepyhead overnight from birth and is a happy healthy little boy. He sleeps in a cot now for 12hrs straight. Every baby is different but I don’t know why they are ruled out straight away as unsafe and you are made to feel like a lunatic for suggesting one, I did a lot of research and believe they couldn’t be sold if unsafe

They still sell cot bumpers......

The suffocation risk if baby pushes up to the side of a nest type thing is considered high. And if you look at sleepyhead label now it says not for unsupervised sleeping as far as I know

Have you tried swaddling? Swaddle, hold for 20mins til in deep sleep then slide away from you. Helps if the place you are putting them is warm too so the change in temperature doesn't wake them.

I did a lot of research and believe they couldn’t be sold if unsafe

They are sold with a disclaimer that it shouldn't be used for unsupervised sleeping (i.e. without an awake adult). Just like cot bumpers are sold 'for decorative purposes only' (i.e. to make the cot look pretty when your baby isn't in it). They're businesses and don't care whether it's used safely or not provided they're not open to litigation.

I used the sleepyhead with my first. Was a godsend. I remember checking if it was safe for sleep and I used it for all naps etc. This was nearly 3 years ago, and am planning to use it with my second, due in the next few weeks!

Oh, I also swaddled till it was safe. Lots of reflux and we still managed to get some sleep through the breastfeeding. Also, there's some days/weeks where it's going to be awful for sleep, but it will get better. I remember being so shocked at about 5/6 (can't remember exactly when!) weeks when my little one didn't wake up for about 5 hours overnight and I kept waking to check if everything was ok!

The sleepyhead website says it is safe:

www.sleepyheadsa.com/pages/faqs

Lullaby trust disagrees:

www.lullabytrust.org.uk/the-lullaby-trust-issues-warning-about-some-popular-baby-sleeping-products-sold-in-high-street-stores/

How much faith you put in the manufacturer's claims is up to you.

I did a lot of my own research into the Sleepyhead and was comfortable using it. Others' mileage may vary. If you have a bigger baby, you probably won't get a huge amount of use out of the first size though. We moved DD to the bigger one around six months, so it was fairly expensive but we did use it a lot in those six months.