How well would you say you were coping?

[specialmagiclady]

I've got 2 x DSs, 21.6 and 20 weeks old respectively. And I just feel like in lots of ways I'm not coping. Not emotionally, I'm not depressed, but physically!

I'm a pretty good mum, my babies are darlings. But I can't get ANYTHING done. For every wash I put on, two seem to materialise. I'm hardly cooking any more. My husband comes home from work and does almost all the housework. I've been trying to organise a naming ceremony and building work and it just feels like I'm swimming through custard every day.

I don't even get to make the beds for some reason. This was always my absolute must-do in terms of housework - you know, it could look like a bomb's hit the rest of the room but if the bed's made it's okay. But now that's out the window.

I have a cleaner and DS1 goes to nursery 2 mornings a week, so I have LOADS of help. My husband is incredibly cooperative. I'm sure that my friends who all have toddlers and new babies get so much more done than me. Some of them run part-time businesses and volunteer as well, and I can't even keep my house tidy. Gaaaah!

I know I shouldn't compare myself to others, but if you don't know how high the tide is, how do you know how hard you have to swim to keep your head above water??

So, how well are you doing?

SOLITUDE? SOLITUDE??

Just doesn't happen! Because when they get more independent and start being less clingy you think.... "oooh I miss my wickle tiny baby. Mummy needs another one now."

And so the whole thing starts again. But worse...

Definitely the problem is that we're at home all day. If I can get out for the entire day, I come home to relative calm. But then am too exhausted to deal with washing/cooking DH's supper/tidying bathroom etc so it builds up.... Vicious circle, innit?