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2 1/2 yr old and illnesses

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dan220282 · 19/10/2019 20:01

My son started nursery for the first time in July and since then he has been ill almost constantly. It all came to a head a few weeks back when we had to rush him to a&e as his temp was 40+ and his breathing was all over the place. Turns out he had severe tonsillitis and after 3 days in hospital and antibiotics through a canula he was back home. Went back to nursery 9 days later..and he now has the most horrendous cough that he cannot control. He has a history of tonsillitis and obviously we are both worried about him needing to go back to hospital again. Not sure why I'm posting this tbh. You guys have been great with me before so I just thought I'd say it out loud here. He seems to be poorly all the time and both of us being at work its stretching us to the end of our wits

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PlugUgly1980 · 19/10/2019 20:08

Completely normal for the first year of nursery I'm afraid! But it does get better, my now 5 year old did her first year at school with 100% attendance! A far cry from her first year at nursery when for the first 6 months I was constantly off work as she was poorly, or in hospital. It was a nightmare.

dan220282 · 19/10/2019 20:12

Thankyou for the reply. I kind of guessed this. I get so upset seeing him so poorly. Work are understanding but I constantly feel we are pushing our luck. I know that's bad as my son is my world and our main priority. I'm dreading being told he needs to have his tonsils out, at 2 no baby should have to go through that. At the minute he has a temp in bed and has the most horrific cough that's come about the last few days. I live for the 100% years! Haha

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Mumof21989 · 20/10/2019 07:57

Hello, I feel you. May 2018 my DD started nursery. I was so excited for her. But unfortunately she got back to back colds and temperatures. Then October came around and she got two stomach bugs six weeks apart then a horrible case of tonsilitis. Her baby brother was also collecting half of her viruses.

March 2019 10 months after she started we were still all constantly Ill. I woke up one morning to my son aged 14 months by this point struggling to breathe. He had been hot the night before and seemed like he was getting a cold again. By this point my family were not interested when I said we had another virus. They were at the point of you are always Ill. Even suggested allergies and heyfever too me. I was very upset that people had lost interest in my kids!

Anyway I took my son up a&e and the Dr looked him over and gave him Calpol and said his throat was swollen but no sign of a chest infection. She was about to send us home when they checked his temp and it was 39. She then gave him another dose of calpol and he was hooked up to an IV drip, a canula was put into his little hand and bloods were taken. We then were sent by ambulance to a hospital with a chdrens ward. They did an x-ray and discovered he had a patch of pnunomia on his lung. He was I. Hospital for three nights and then we continued to give him meds at home for ten days. It was a horrible long road. I cut my DD nursery hours down to six at this point and kept her home mostly until she started school this September.

After the hospital visit we had a holiday. Booked 5 weeks later in the UK by the coast. We spent 2 weeks near the sea and honestly they came back much healthier. They have had three colds since may which is amazing. We currently have a cold now as DD has been at school six weeks. But it's mild. I am scared of this winter.

I'm so sorry for the long post. I find it all abit upsetting. People have to work, send their kids into nursery sick and then other kids end up in hospital or on antibiotics. It is a part of life and I do understand they will pick up colds and stuff. I also understand they will get these things at some point. But clearly children are going in Poorly and should be home.

I remember collecting my DD once from nursery and this child was coughing and her eyes were streaming. She had to stop running to catch her breath. I'm sorry but she should of been home resting. These poor kids end up so run down because parents can't take time off to care for them when they are Ill. I know coughs linger etc but if you are not able to function properly you are not well enough for nursery. Also when my DD had tonsilitis I rang up and said she's in antibiotics and not well so she won't be in. Her nursery manager said she can come in tomorrow once she had been on them for 24 hours. I was shocked. My DD was asleep sat up and unable to eat or lie down! No way was she well enough. But that explains why things are so bad as other parents will send their kids in with antibiotics and bad throats as the manager has volunteered to look after them in that condition Angry

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user1493413286 · 20/10/2019 08:02

We found the first 6 months after DD started childcare to be like that; it does get better though and now DD gets colds but rarely needs time off now

dan220282 · 20/10/2019 10:21

No need to apologise for the long post. It seems everyone goes through the same thing. I'm glad yours are in a better place now. We cant cut his hours down at nursery, he goes 3 days and we have nobody to look after him. My partners parents are useless. Her mom and 3 brothers cant cope with apparently 🙄 and my parents live over 100 miles away. I'm hoping he starts to improve in the next few days. Taking him the docs tomorrow to just check over his chest and make sure his tonsillitis hasnt come back.

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Mumof21989 · 20/10/2019 10:36

I know exactly what you mean. It's a really tricky one isn't it. I am looking into childminders with my son so he will be in a smaller setting. I fear his chest Will be weak still and I have not got time to have them so poorly now DD is at school. I don't know how I'd manage school runs of my son is poorly as it's a half hour walk. I also have useless family who won't help/don't want to. Even in an emergency id struggle to get them to chip in. I hope your little one is ok soon. It must be so hard with work etc.
I've started my DD on haliborange multi bits and probiotic chocolate balls and so far they seem to help abit. X

dan220282 · 20/10/2019 11:11

He was in a childminders before nursery..but she got suspended and he really didnt like going there. I love him going to nursery because they are wonderful with him and he loves his teachers. I just wish this would end. Weve been pretty much ill now since the beginning of August. Thanks for the tip on vitamins we are going to try him on them. see if it helps at all.

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PlugUgly1980 · 20/10/2019 12:01

@Mumof21989 - you might be lucky! My eldest was a nightmare when she started nursery, every virus going, severe bronchiolitis twice resulting in stays on the Paediatric High Dependency Ward, numerous other admissions for chest infections, temperatures regularly over 40 plus. I didn't do a full day at work for 4 months.

Her brother (2 years between then), is completely different! He gets the odd cold but just keeps going. He's 4 this year and has had 1 very nasty bout of tonsillitis, chicken pox and hand, foot and mouth and that's it! I don't know if he had good immunity as half the time I was pregnant with him his sister had shared her germs with me or what, but the difference compared to what I went through with his sister is amazing! I was fully prepared for another thought few years, but he's been a breeze!

Mumof21989 · 20/10/2019 15:59

Op fingers crossed. I guess they will get stronger as they get older. You don't think of these things when you get pregnant do you. It's probably weird but I counted my DD viruses in the end and she had 17 bugs in 11 months.

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That's good to know. I feel mine are opposites in illness so far. My daughter is 4 and has had seven stomach bugs. My baby seems to suffer with his tonsils and throat more. I really hope that by catching all these colds through my daughter he's had a boost. If I learn to drive before his ore school year I am considering a pre school. But actual nursery I am so stressed at the thought of being back there. Seeing him so poorly was horrible. Sounds like your eldest also suffered. Has he grown out of things now?

dan220282 · 20/10/2019 19:42

Thanks for the replies. I suppose we just have to grin an bare it and just wait for it all to blow over. You know what's just as bad is when they give us mutated strains of what they had. Which kills us off for a week. I've been ill more times in the last 4 months than I have in the rest of my 35 years on this planet.

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hormonesorDHbeingadick · 20/10/2019 19:47

It’s awful when they are ill. I would consider getting him vaccinated against chicken pox.

dan220282 · 21/10/2019 07:36

We were considering that as well. Might do it in the new year. Book some time off to get it done and him recovered.

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dan220282 · 21/10/2019 19:47

So today hes been to the doctors. Referred to the hospital for a chest x ray in case of infection or pneumonia. Unlikely due to the antibiotics he had. So he's been given strong cough medicene and let home to hope he improves. That's all we've got in 2019 is hope. He has been completely lifeless today and has lost his appetite completely. Gone straight to sleep at half 6. Fully expecting another hospital trip in the very near future. Burst into tears at home because I feel so useless. Absolute shit.

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Mumof21989 · 22/10/2019 07:13

Oh no! How is he today? Honestly it was cold after cold for us then october-march it was hell. I'm not saying it will be for you at all but germs are rife for the next six months. It seems to be a really common thing for children at nursery.

I don't think it is good for their bodies at all. Building up immunity is important but being knocked down with tons of viruses seems too much. I never went to nursery and I was a pretty healthy child. My DD however had a really tough year.

I wish I could help More but for us it was the trip to the coast, spring starting and I cut her hours.

I wish your little boy a speedy recovery. You are a great mum and believe many parents have been here. There were three children in hospital when my son was in. All with nursery related viruses. It really is a common thing xx

dan220282 · 22/10/2019 21:16

Today he is like a different person. No temperature. His cough has subsided, and has been awake until just now! It "looks" like he's on the mend and hopefully some respite for him now. I really hope he doesnt suffer too much through the winter. He does only go a few days a week as I still have him one day and my partner 2. Then we spend sundays together. Xrays appear clear and thank god it was just a precaution

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