My 8 month older wont sleep through the night

[claire93]

Hi everyone I'm a first time parent is it normal for your 8 month old not to sleep through the night my little girl is in a good routine
Milk
Sleep
Breakfast
Lunch
Sleep
Tea
Bath
Milk
Sleep
And she goes down so easily at 7pm
As soon as it gets to 12 am shes wife awake no screaming, no crying just wants to play I try everything to get her to sleep again. Or she will sleep all night and wake up at 5am doing the same. I'm so exhausted as my partner works during the day so it's me getting up. I have no idea why she is doing this I did all the checks wind nappy ect no hunger cries from her no pain cries for tether just simply playfully noises. And laughter from her. It's so random she has been in such a good rountine from three months old it's so not like her any advice from fellow mommas would be amazing

Sounds pretty normal to me. What time is 2nd nap?

Sounds like you're doing a brilliant job.

Routine sounds fine OP- what do you do when she wakes up at midnight?

She has her afternoon nap between 1 and 3 depending on when she has her lunch. I dont let her go any longer than 1hr 30mins. And I go in usually shes on her tummy and thrown her dummy out of the cot laughing i turn her over put her dummy in and walk out and repeat process. But I've found that alaightly ive been doing this for several hours during the night and having to sleep on her floor as a result lmao 🤣🤣 its killing me slowly lmao 😭🤣

Mines still a bad sleeper and usually wakes up at least once and she's 2
But she went through a phase of waking up for a few hours every night for about 2 weeks solid and this has happened maybe 3 times in the past 2 years
Nothing I could do about it except go to bed earlier with her and it did pass I'm assuming it coincides with something but I never did figure it out

U could try shortening her naps a little if u think that it's not a phase but hopefully it will pass just make sure u get plenty of sleep
Whilst she was awake I still kept all the lights dim but I did let her watch some TV and have a snack

At 8 months old, personally I’d offer a bottle and then leave her. My LO had a mobile I’d put on if getting back to sleep, if dry and fed and otherwise happy (not teething or ill) I left her to get back to sleep.

Also just looking at your routine does she only nap once a day? I know u can't make them sleep but I think she should still be having about 2 naps at that age if possible

They say sleep begets sleep don't they
But fuck knows kids are mental

Yeah she isnt showing any signs of hunger or pain. Just being a little madam and wanting to play. As soon as I walk in her room shes laughing and moving allover the cot like it's a game it's so frustrating to see as I've spent all these months putting her in such a good strict routine and she just wont go at all. I dont want to do the cry it out method cus I hate that. (My personal preference).

I completely sympathise my 8 month old still wakes 2 hourly through the night. Absolutely exhausting, so advice, but I'm with you!

She has a hour and half in the morning before 10 am and then has an hour or hour and half between 1-3 sometime she will have a 20 min power nap before lunch but not every day just when she has had a bad night or if she hasnt slept much in the morning

Hahaa @Jesse that comment made me laugh - "fuck knows, kids are mental" is a pretty accurate summation of my parenting style at the moment.

OP, my daughter has just turned 9 months and isn't sleeping through yet either - not even close! Your routine sounds pretty much the same as ours, which in turn is similar to other babies who I know are sleeping through. I reckon sleep is one thing that we have much less control over than we think we do! The sleep deprivation is torture, so you have my sympathy!

If she's not crying in the cot can't you just leave her? Don't go in at 12. And if she's gone through till 5 I'd class that as a full night. Mine would have wanted a feed and a cuddle and play, then annoyingly would go back to sleep about 6:30 when I had to get up. (My youngest would then sleep through till 9.....which was a right pain, as I'd end up sticking him in the buggy for a school run asleep and in PJs, praying he wouldn't wake and want proper breakfast, or do a massive poo before getting home. - my eldest wouldn't have gone back to sleep again...he would have been awake for hours.)

Sorry OP but this sounds normal to me. I have three DC, one of them slept through by this age and the other two were like yours. Hang in there, it will get better at some point!

I'd just leave her to it if she's happy and not fussy. If crying, I'd go in, check nappy, feed and back to bed. If she's awake and happy, she will eventually go back to sleep.... No need to attend.

What happens if you don’t go in to get her? I only went in to dd if she was crying. Playing/chatting etc I just went back to sleep!

Mine wakes several times a night for a feed.

She will roll onto her tummy throw all of her dummies out of her cot then try and reach for them she will play for a bit then gets restless thsts when I usually go in put the dummies back in flip her over and leave the room. But she will cry as soon as I leave the room. Shes so clingy alaightly I dont know if its attention or she just wants someone there. And she goes to sleep st 7 and normal routine will wake at half 6 normally. Not this week haa

Maybe it's time to ditch the dummy at bedtime? My 13 month old still wakes once a night to breastfeed. (My older two didn't sleep through consistently till 16 months) Anytime between 3am and 6am. So, at 8 months, waking is / was the norm in my house.

Just been through this and used sleep consultant, he is now sleeping 9 hours solidly. Things we changed:

1. 45min bedtime routine- bath, books, sleeping bag, fees then cot
2. ensure he has 2.5 hours nap per day
3. ensure that he is not up for more than 4 hours during the day E.G wakes at 6, nap 10-11, lunch 12, next nap 2ish awake by 4pm then bed by 7.30pm
4. bought a white noise machine keep it on continuously through the night
5. ensure room is 100% dark
6. he kicks covers off and hates normal sleeping bag so bought a sleeping bag with legs now he doesn’t wake up cold.

*feed not fees

I appreciate the cry it out method can be hard OP but if shes not hungry, dry, not teething or ill, then shes crying because its a change - shes used to waking up and keeping you in the room. I read countless threads on here where parents say my 4 year old wont get to sleep without me (we make rods for our own backs) - kids dont just suddenly start eating solids, walk or talk without any encouragement, sleep to me is no different.

If she cries in the middle of the night (5am/ 5.30am wake ups can be the norm sadly)- then id go in offer a feed, change if need be, pop dummy back in and walk out. Keeps crying come in every 5/10mins, pass back the dummy, rub back say "night night time" and walk out again...eventually she will learn.

8-10 mo sleep regression
Normal not to sleep through

Normal to need you in the night. Not a 'madam'. Not 'clingy'

Just a baby

Babies go through constant sleep regressions until 1. I remember go ogling 'is an 8 month sleep regression a thing?' in the middle of the night.

My daughter is 17 months old now and only wakes once through the night for a feed.