Drowsy but awake...?!

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Hi all.
How does this 'put your baby down in their bed when they're drowsy but awake' thing work?? My daughter (10 weeks) is getting into the habit of breastfeeding to sleep. My first born did this and it became a bit of a nightmare so I'm keen to avoid it this time. Everything I've read says this is the best tactic, they'll learn to self soothe, their naps will be longer and they'll sleep better at night... but as soon as I've gotten her drowsy and put her down it's eyes wide open and usually crying. Then she's awake. Repeat. Awake. Repeat.... etc. Then it's 90 minutes later, she's over tired and the whole thing feels like a bloody waste of time!
Do these magic babies exist that are happy to be put down drowsy and then drop off by themselves? Should I persist? How else can I get her to sleep??

*I should add that I'm not necessarily against feeding to sleep it's just that with my first this led to a situation where she was waking every 40 minutes and needed me there basically all night from 7pm bedtime. Also feeding this one to sleep, especially at night, can sometimes take up to 2 hours!

I know this isn’t a helpful answer but I had the same experience. Unless My DD was fast asleep after feeding to sleep she’d wide awake when I put her down. I’m currently pregnant with my second and I think from about 6 months I’m going to put serious effort into the drowsy but awake theory and before then just let the baby fall asleep how he needs to

In my experience, drowsy babies are a complete myth. My babies were either wide awake or cranky and tired! Always fed to sleep until they were about two. Not ideal but hey ho.

Also to add my DD naturally stopped feeding to sleep at about 7/8 months and even before then she slept relatively well at night. My mistake was to start to rock her to sleep at night which she then expected whenever she woke but I think if I’d persevered with letting her fall asleep without it at 7/8 months then it’d have been ok

I am convinced drowsy but awake is a myth

It's Bollucks there is no drowsy but awake state it doesn't exist

I'd persist, I've done it with my ds, mixed with letting him whine/cry then soothing but putting back down. He self settles amazingly and has done since 4 months ish

If ds is “drowsy but awake” he’s tired n screaming... it’s a myth.
The only thing I’ve learned is don’t rock them.. unless you can rock a 2 year old for half an hour without training like Arnie

I can put my ds down drowsy, but he is almost 18 months old. I'm sure some babies do it early, but I think they are few and far between. Babies are designed to fall asleep whilst feeding, your milk contains hormones that make them fall asleep so you're trying to go against nature.
I know they are love or hate, but a decent sling helps in the day and I couldn't have survived no. 2 or 3 without cosleeping. Have you tried white noise and and something that smells if you?

My DD did it for the first couple of months - we thought we'd cracked it. Now (6 mo) she doesn't. Takes bloody ages to get her sufficiently deeply asleep that she'll go into her cot without hysteria. I wish she'd feed to sleep.

My eldest was like that. As soon as you laid him down his eyes sprung open and he cried.

My youngest is a dream. Put her down awake after a feed and she sticks her thumb in and self settles to sleep. Has done from being 8 weeks and she is 7 months now.

OMG I could have wrote this myself 😂 Few differences such as I feed with bottle and my baby is nearly 10 months but same exact thing, as soon as you pay them down they wake back up! I've been as consistent as I can with a routine but still doesn't help! I also give mine meds for teething (profen) I know you don't have this option until 3 months but perhaps it is teething? Or just wanting to be close to you? At 10 weeks they will take a long time to feed and need feeding often, it's exhausting when they're that age! I remember when mine was that age perhaps younger , I would have to sleep with her in my arms as she refused to go into her bassinet and then I tried the big girl cot with one side tilted by books just in case she had reflux and this worked, she slept alone then! So try this if you haven't but you probably have lol. Plus you may have to wait a little while before putting her down, I just sit there holding my baby until I know she's in a deep sleep, I know it's not recommended but if it gets her to sleep then I'll do it 😂 I have also done controlled crying and sometimes they like to have a little cry but go back to sleep without any assistance, I wouldn't recommend this with a 10 week old but once your baby gets to 6 months, put her down and leave! If she cries, let her for 5 minutes and then go back in and sooth her, leave again and do it all again... You can adapt the times and how you sooth, some say to avoid taking the baby out of the cot but that doesn't work with me, I take mine out and feed her...but if she cries after I put her back down then I'll leave the room and go back in after 5 minutes. Some are strongly against any sleeping training but when you're an sleep deprived single mum, you'll do what is necessary within reason (I wouldn't leave my baby to cry for longer then 10 minutes).

I have one of these magical babies 3rd time round. I promise it's 110% nothing I'm doing and I'm baffled! She's been sleeping through from 7-3 since about 6 weeks old and at 12 weeks last few nights have been 7-7! I keep waking up in a panic she hasn't woken up. My other 2 didn't sleep through till they were nearly 1 and never would of gone to sleep without being fed or/and rocked.

It's such an easy thing for someone to suggest if they've been fortunate enough to have a baby or even more than 1, who is happy to fall asleep without any assistance. The thing they don't realise is that some will, but most wont.
Don't worry.

Thanks for your responses!
It's funny how different each baby is! I was expecting my second to be like my first and she's soooo not.
I do have a carrier, and it's where she sleeps best, but only if I'm out and walking. So it's great in the afternoon to pick the older one up from nursery and then head to the playground. But trying it in the house to cook or clean etc hasn't worked. But she is quite happy to sit and watch if she's not tired.
The weirdest thing is that she doesn't seem to be able to sleep on me... this was where my first spent all her time, but with number 2, I feed her, she falls asleep - but won't fall into a deep sleep, she'll be awake again within 10 minutes.
I'm feeding her to sleep at night (we're co-sleeping) where I lie next to her and then slip away. The problem with this is that it usually takes more than an hour.
Nights aren't too bad though, she's mostly sleeping 5 hour stretches.