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Really dislike my 7 month old at the moment

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Namechangeshame2019 · 13/10/2019 20:12

She’s always been a difficult baby and I had PND but I really thought we’d turned a corner.

She’s such a grumpy git. Constantly. She’s been especially short tempered today and fights sleep at the best of times.

I feel bad as I’m just getting frustrated with everything she does now and I’m not the nice cuddly mum I want to be and I’ve said mean stuff to her today Sad

I’m back at work part time so I had hoped I’d start enjoying her more but the thought of spending the evenings with her and the next two days with her being especially grumpy fulls me with dread.

Help! I don’t want to feel like this

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Namechangeshame2019 · 14/10/2019 05:16

Anyone? I just want to get back to liking her again Sad

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gonewiththerain · 14/10/2019 05:22

Can you find the reason she’s grumpy? Teething, tired, ill?

itsboiledeggsagain · 14/10/2019 05:22

I'm sorry I don't know much about pnd and it sounds like you are really suffering so Flowers

It have never wondered how much I like my children. Maybe just try to break it down into the hear and now of - this is going well, ooh this is making her sad. Ie a walk will. Cheer us up, she seems bored of playing on the mat or whatever. Perhaps attribute more simple emotions to her like sad or crying as you don't know if she is "grumpy" or maybe teething, trying to tell you something.

You mention evenings - does she go to bed?

How much sleep are you getting?

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hopityhopity · 14/10/2019 05:50

Is she crawling yet?
My eldest was a bit of a grump until she was crawling at 6 months, would rarely be put down. But once she started crawling was a different baby! I think some babies get a bit frustrated with being a baby and aren't really happy until they get a bit of independence.

Although almost 4 now and the sleep fighting continues, but now she sits in her bed 'reading' and playing with teddies and eventually drifts off 😁 quite lovely to listen too really and nothing like rocking them and walking around the room with them like when they're babies!

Camsie30 · 14/10/2019 06:16

Totally understand. My son was a total misery until he could sit up by himself and it was horrible. I really questioned whether I should have had another baby as it felt like he hated me. I couldn't get anything done was shattered. He's 8 months now and has had a total change, he's smiley and and I'm really enjoying him. Back at work full time though and do feel resentful that my maternity leave was so difficult. Hang on in there, it will get better xxx

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Namechangeshame2019 · 14/10/2019 19:45

Thanks all!

We did have an enjoyable day today. We went to baby ballet and met up with my parents.

She is crawling and trying to pull herself up on stuff so I’m forever trying to make sure she doesn’t hurt herself or go anywhere she isn’t supposed to which she really hates

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NellWilsonsWhiteHair · 15/10/2019 23:16

Sympathies. My first was a grumpy baby and I felt cheated, really, out of my visions of early motherhood! He became much easier to spend time with once he had the independence he’d been craving - walking and talking, especially - and now I can see how the things I love best about him are very connected to the things I have also found hard about him. He’s a real thinker, sensitive, exuberant: he loves deeply and he gets frustrated quickly and he also calms down quickly and knows how to patch things up, himself included. All of these traits became easier to appreciate when he was older than a baby!

FWIW i also don’t like him very much at the minute (now 7 years old). I am really aware though that this is because I am totally wrung out with other stuff (v wakeful DC2, work stress). His company is only v intermittently soothing, which is legit because he’s 7 years old and it’s not his role to soothe me, but it’s all quite hard going because I need soothing and relaxing and he’s the fucking opposite! This may not be at play for you at all, but I wanted to throw it out there as a possibility. Sometimes it’s more about our own emotional well-being than it is about our children themselves. I’m doing a lot of fake-it-til-you-make-it with my irksome child at the minute, I’m looking forward to enjoying him again but for now I refuse to beat myself up about it, feeling guilty is not going to improve matters for anyone.

feelingsicknow · 16/10/2019 08:54

I'm be gone through so many phases of disliking my baby already and he's only 14 months. Then I feel guilty and awful.

It's to do with their phases and development and the changes they go though - and just when you are getting into your stride, they change again. And I am not good with change so always take it hard and personally.

Mine was a nightmare around that age too - then suddenly changed. It'll pass once they master their next trick.

Hugs and solidarity fist bump. X

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