If you were happy with one child and then changed your mind please tell me

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Why you changed your mind?
Whether you did have another child?
Whether you are happy with everything or whether you have any regrets?
What's it been like?

It will help me make a difficult decision!

When we had our first child we were over the moon. We loved on her so much and yes, a first child is a lot of stress as it is something new and you are continually reading up on things and making sure you do it right and dont "break" anything

My wife and I were both only children. Although we were happy with one we both remember back to those rainy days at home sitting alone with no brothers or sisters to play with. Yes, there were other kids but play dates need to be arranged, etc.

We decided to have one more.

Suddenly, we noticed, we are pretty experienced at this and she was a lot less work . Actually, we had just matured and no longer sweated the small stuff.

With two girls, we decided a boy would be cool. So we tried for a third and got twin boys.

So what started out small grew into 4 kids. I don't regret the decision at all. We watch them play and love on each other and we really appreciate what we had missed so much as only kids.

No advice but following with interest! We have one 2.5 year old DD. She is brilliant - an absolute delight and I really, really enjoy being her mum. I don’t feel like we are stressed or chaotic etc, it’s just....nice!

She is so sociable, loves other people and children, and I feel she would love having a sibling. However, I have no real desire for another baby (although like the thought of another toddler!). DH feels the same. Unsure whether to try for another, or be happy with our lovely family as it is.

I had one Dd and could never imagine wanting another! I was always trying to convince my partner we should just have the one.

Then when she got to age 4 I all of a sudden started feeling broody again. Got pregnant quickly but was ectopic. Was then so worried about my fertility and realised I really really wanted another luckily fell pregnant again and now have Ds who is 3 months. He is an absolute angel and I am besotted with him definitely no regrets.
My daughter has struggled to adapt though to be honest she is 5 now and I think was so used to having my undivided attention. I make sure that I play with her all the time and have one on one mummy dates but she has still found it quite hard I think so that has made having number 2 a bit stressful. I do feel guilty that ive turned her little worls upside down. But she is slowly getting used to him being here now...

Congratulations @shivbo2014

I'm sure it will get easier for your dd in time

I've also suffered an ectopic which was awful and makes me not want to try again. I couldn't go through that again and I'm older so more risk

Oh sorry you've been through an ectopic too. It is a horrible experience and made me really worry about my future fertility. I did read that there is only a 10% chance of having another ectopic which made me feel better. Its a really difficult decision whether to have another or not...so much to consider.