How to cope when going out !

[linniewith2]

Hi I have 2 dd's aged 2 & 10 wks and realy I only have 2 problems with dd1 one being getting her to sleep and the other being going out!
She is incredably independant and in some ways this is excellent but in others like when I want to go out is a total nightmare..........
She would prefer to walk when we go out but I find this so sressful as she never wants to go in the direction that I'm walking. If she's on reigns she sort of hangs from them or pulls in the opposite direction if she's in the buggy it's ok for a while but if she decides that she wants to get out its pure hell she screams leans to the side/forward tries to get the straps off etc etc etc any advice please!!!!!!!!!!! I would like a stress free shop that didnt involve bribery for a change

A boogy board for the buggy that she can stand on?

DS was very similar. Sympathies. No solutions.

That requires cooperation, cab... and a child who will at least consent to go in the same direction you want to go.

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also buckets of praise when she does what you want, what a big girl she's being etc

perhaps as a trial, and after really bigging this up with her, take off the reins, to reinforce this idea of her being so grown up (if you feel courageous enough and are somewhere safe). then if she doesn't do what you want, just stick her back in them?

only have the one though so what do i know

I take it, Twiglett, you've never had the child who threw themselves on the pavement and refused to walk at all, then? Cue DH shouting at the child, or me just sitting down and reading a book for half an hour or so.

I have the pavement tantrums from DS too. We got a 3 wheeler for DD and he's allowed to ride on footstep when he wants. It's knackering the buggy but gives me some peace. Other than that, I use bribery too!

My ds got a little difficult around that age when dd was around the same age as yours. In the end, I bought a floppy back pack (looks a little like a baby bjorn but for the back) and put dd in it and ds in the buggy. I always carried a sippee cup with milk and raisins for him too. But for the most part I tried to avoid shopping with the 2 of them. He did get better after awhile. I think it was really just a product of his age, but was enormously more difficult because I had dd in tow too.

Threaten her with gong in the buggy if she wont behave and do it, and leave her to scream forever if need be, then give her a treat if she does do it well.

Oh I know exactly where you are coming from. My DS2 is 2 years 4 months and if anyone passed me on the road today can I just say I was not torturing him I was trying to keep him in his buggy because the blighter wouldn't walk, kept throwing himself on the floor having a tantrum but surprise, surprise wouldn't go in the buggy either. He is also a little Houdini who can get out of the buggy even although the straps are tightly done up. I spent the whole walk home with him screaming, bright purple face, wriggling out of the straps. I had one hand pushing the buggy and the other in the buggy fighting with him trying to stop him getting out of the straps now my shoulder is killing me and looks like the whole incident has undone the good my Chiropractor's appointment costing £24 did three days ago! Arrrrrrrgh!

No advice I'm afraid I keep telling myself it's a phase but loads of sympathy and if anyone has an miracle solutions I am listening too!

Sorry that was a bit of a rant, it's been a baaaad day!

Not much advice really, but loads and loads of sympathy. Infact, absolutely no advice!! Sorry!!!