Hello! Hope this is the right place to be posting this. Maybe I'm just looking for some moral support more than anything to be honest. It's a long story I'm going to cut very short!
Separated from narcissistic ex 5 years ago. He has the children every other weekend and 2 days in between. Most of the time I just deal with it now and manage to ignore his childish, controlling behaviour but every now and then we have an issue.
Current issue is him leaving the children who are 5 and 7 unsupervised. There's literally no need for it. He was leaving my 5 year old in the car with the dog while he went to the supermarket which I had an issue with and he refused to listen until one day she got out of the car and went looking for him. He then stopped.
Now he's letting my 7 year old walk the dog by herself 'around the block'. While the distance may be 200 metres, its down an alleyway, out of sight, out of ear shot and we live in London. I find it totally unnecessary. He's saying there's no law against it and will continue to do it.
On that note I've said until he promises that the children wont be left unsupervised I'm not going to be dropping them off. Not to play games or have control, I'm genuinely worried about their safety. It takes seconds for a child to go missing. While she may be smart, she can't defend herself. She wouldn't know what to do if she came across something she shouldn't.
I would never forgive myself if I let them go and he put them in unnecessary danger and something happened to them. His refusal to back down is purely about him needing control, power and not being told what to do. It's a very boring cycle.
Am i doing the right thing? Any advice? Not sure I even have any rights tbh.
Thank you for listening xxxx