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3yo with persistently wet knickers

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zebra · 24/09/2004 01:31

DD will be 3yo next week... nominally out of nappies (daytime) for almost a year. She was totally reliable for 2 months, -- since then many spells of accidents.

Maybe 8 months ago her knickers started to be persistenly wet. I gave up keeping her in dry knix in frustration and only changed her once a day unless it was a full blown accident. She also went thru a phase of "shuddering" when she needed a wee, resisting the urge and screaming in hysterics if we tried to make her go to the toilet, finally giving herself a UTI in August. Since then we frog-march her to the loo every 2 hours, or whenever we catch her in the "shuddering" act.

Now, am trying to be more hygienic, change her pants/trousers at least once in middle of day, but it's hard to remember with other demands on me, and will get more difficult when she's wearing more layers in cold weather.

What can we do to stop her leakiness & get her knickers dry? Has she damaged her water works with the shuddering act? Do many 3 yr olds have smelly nasty pants/knix? Any experience? Help?!

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Tissy · 24/09/2004 08:17

zebra, no advice, but I'm in a similar position with dd, 2y8mo. She has been dry by day for 3 months, and initially had no accidents whatsoever. Now she wets her pants several times a day. If she needs a wee, she will shout "Wee" and crouch down where she is, and by the time we've got her to the potty (usually very nearby), her pants are damp. Apparently she does this at nursery, too. I wondered about a UTI, but she says that the wee is not sore, and she isn't passing small amounts frequently, like an adult would. Also, when she does fill the potty, the wee is nice and clear.

Hope someone else has the answer; I was so proud of her for doing so well with potty training, now I'm despairing.

gothicmama · 24/09/2004 08:22

sorrry no real advice but is it possible to msake them more involved or to give them some responsibility / control over it all maybe by giving them a responsibility to do with going to teh toilet and getting there ion time -possible use a reward system - in Bear Big BH they have an order of toileteers club for those learning to use teh toilet -

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zebra · 24/09/2004 08:23

We have had phases of frequent full scale accidents. The regular/frequent trips to loo has pretty much sorted that. Now it's just lots of little drops... enough to keep her knix permanently disgusting. I'd have to change her 6-10x/day to keep her in properly "dry" knix.

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gothicmama · 24/09/2004 08:25

could speak to hv or gp about it just to put your mind at rest that it is not a physical probelm or illness causinng this

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zebra · 24/09/2004 13:58

Bump... no1 else has had a child like this?

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LIZS · 24/09/2004 14:06

zebra

dd was just dry, then we moved and she had accidents for about a month, now pretty reliable again which coincided with her turning 3. However she does sometimes have a patch when she has only just made it to the toilet for a proper wee because she was occupied or if she really needs a poo and doesn't fully recognise the signals. She has gone from being incredibly fussy about it and changing herself to being completely nonplussed. Sorry no real answers, but ds did the patch thing for ages and then suddenly stopped - he often came home from preschool a bit smelly .

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zebra · 24/09/2004 14:10

My DS was great -- even though I just taught him to drip dry like most boys, his pants don't smell at all. Wherease DD, much more than a simple damp patch. She can't stand a drop of water on a her finger, but has permanent damp botty.

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Tissy · 24/09/2004 18:14

bump!

Fennel · 24/09/2004 18:47

this sounds quite like dd1 who was beautifully toilet trained at 2 years 4 months, barely an accident for 5 months, then a series of lots of accidents, it went on for months, eventually diagnosed as a serious of urinary tract infections. now she's 4.5 and we are about to get kidney scans for possible scarring.

what we had to do is treat every phase of leaky knickers or more accidents suddenly with antibiotics. we still do, she's mostly fine now, but every so often something sets it all off again and we have another course of antibiotics.

I do really wish we'd treated her sooner with the antibiotics, we assumed for ages it was behavioural, regression etc, and now I feel bad about that.

kaz1504 · 27/09/2004 22:03

Hi
I have a 2 and a half year old daughter who was potty trained in the day time at 2. She has now reverted to wetting herself at the drop of a hat, even when reminded, although never poos, always manages to get there in time for that. It is causing problems for her childminder who she goes to twice a week as she has 2 other young children there. I am wondering whether it would do more harm than good to put her back in pull ups? Any ideas?

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