The newborn stage is so so hard

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I hate the newborn stage! There I said it and it feels good to get it out! Don't get me wrong I adore my son but he is 14 weeks now and has not slept once through the night he will also only sleep or nap on me so I haven't had a decent sleep in forever.

What age does it get better? Please make me feel better before I lose my mind. He is my first and I definitely did not anticipate it being this hard sleep wise.

Yes, I felt exactly the same although she slept a little better than yours by the sounds of it.

Once she hit 5 months, I felt into the stride of things and she started to sleep more and more in the night. We moved her at 6 months to her own room and it was brilliant for all of us to get a better nights sleep.

She is now 8 months and sleeps 6.30-6.30 which is great!

I feel your pain!

My DS is 15months now and all my mum friends say how hard it gets when they start moving about. Every baby is different, but for me, I couldn't disagree more. The newborn stage almost broke me. It got easier for me when he was a little more independent (e.g. could fit up, roll over). I think my DS just hated being a baby as he is much more easy going now. As a newborn he never slept through the night and was such a crier. He'd cry anywhere and everywhere. I felt like a prisoner at home but also felt so stressed taking him out. Fast forward to the present day and I find motherhood to be such a pleasure!

Hang in there!

My second is 18 months old and still has never slept through the night
Here have a gin

I agree but dont get your hopes up about sleeping through the night any time soon!

Thanks guys least it isn't just me! I know everyone says this is the easiest time but if it is god knows what state I will be in this time next year!

I fear it won't get better and I will be going back to work in March full time main lining coffee to get through the day!

I will take that gin thank you very much

My DS is 4 months and I'm tired too. He's never slept through the night either and I don't anticipate he will any time soon. He has one or two feeds on a good night but can be up 4/5 times on a really bad night. I don't really mind though. I just love being his mum. Sure it has its moments but you've just got be resilient and find the fun in every day

It is very hard I agree. It gets better. Does your partner ever get up in the night? It's very difficult to function on little and broken sleep.
Hang in there!

Oh OP, it's hard! Each stage has its challenges, but newborns are pretty relentless. But you will come through it.
It does get better, but it's bloody knackering and seemingly endless at the time.

Sending 

All babies are different my DD3 didn't sleep through the night until she was 9 months old but from about 5 months old she was only waking for a one o clock feed so really didn't mind.
DD2 was sleeping through the night from 4 months but would wake very early around half 5 and DD1 was around 6 months old. But even when they are sleeping through the night you still find them awake all night sometimes like when they are not well and then when you finally feel you got a good routine and they settle well and your getting a good night sleep they get too around 18/24 months and seem to go through another phase of waking up you get past that and then they are 2/3 and it's potty training and you have to wake them up and get a whole new routine of watching what they drink after 6 and such it goes on and on through phases, my advice is really do nap when babies napping the house work can wait as for little one sleeping only on you don't know if you have but there are a lot of things you can try and lots of advice for that too, with DD2 from the time she was a week old I'd get her to sleep and she would wake up the second I put her down I tried so many things and then my own mother suggested wrapping her in my dressing gown instead of her own blankets it worked and by the time she was 1 she didn't need it anymore and took to a comfort blanket instead, I absolutely loved when mine were newborns but couldn't wait till mine were sleeping through the night I now look back and they are some of my most cherished memories them late night feeds.
also babies at around 3 months to 4 months can go through sleep regression where they never settle and often just nap and at that age the midwives say they should be sleeping for 9/13 hours a day and still having 2/3 feeds a night

The newborn stage has passed, it'll get easier from now on. :)
My elder 2 didn't sleep through until they were nearly 1, so I wouldn't any expectations for a 3 month old too sleep through! Have you considered safely co-sleeping?

I said to my husband this morning, I’m bored of getting up in the night now. He said he didn’t blame me. I was up 3 times last night with DS2 - he’s almost 11 months. DS1 was sleeping through by 7 months so was expected the same again.
If it’s any consolation it does get easier, you just go on autopilot and kind of get used to the tiredness.
Hopefully you have better luck than me though and get a full nights sleep soon

Thanks for the support I thought I was going to go mad this morning!

Unfortunately my husband is in the forces so it's pretty much just me although he is really good when he is at home. I think from the sound of it I am just going to have to suck it up and get used to the fact I am not getting my 8 hours anymore!

In the meantime I am going to have a glass of wine every time someone sees me and says well my baby slept through the night so easily..... 😂

Mine is nearly six months old and sleep is worse than when she was a newborn; she's up every two hours at the moment, half-hourly when ill/teething.

But it's still better because now she can laugh, chuckle, roly-poly, sit up, grab for things, play, interact, etc. And she's stopped screaming the house down for three hours every evening/every time we go out.

The first 3 months are TOUGH. Then you somehow get used to the crippling sleep deprivation and you get more feedback as they turn into a baby from the tiny mewling prawn creature they were.

I didn't love the newborn stage either, as much as I loved both of my DC when they were newborns it was so bloody hard. My youngest is 2 now and I find it so much easier, he still doesn't sleep through but life is easier in general, he's easier to look after, I can get things done, can put him down for more than 2 minutes, will happily play for watch TV for half a hour. So definitely not just you, I know a few people who have said the same.

Dd slept through aged 3. But what helped is changing ny own thinking from viewing it as a problem to acknowledging it as my new norm. Sounds daft i know, but really helped me out

My first was like that. Didn’t sleep for more than 2 hours at a time ever and was a very whingy baby. He is nearly 3 now and generally a delight.

I have a 6 month old who is the complete opposite. Sleeps well, never cries and is such a lovely baby. It’s made me realise how wonderful it can be and also made me feel a little sad that I didn’t have this with my son. With him I was always wishing the time away to get to the next stage when I thought he might become easier.

OP I completely understand how you feel! The newborn stage is hard! DD was the same as your DS in only sleeping on me. At night we ended up co-sleeping until around 6 months and it wasn't until around 7 months that I could put her down for naps. It was so hard as DS was an absolute dream with his sleeping so I hadn't experienced this before. DD finally started sleeping through at a year old! I've never had a year of sleep deprivation before but we got through it DD is 13 months and now sleeps through the night consistently and she naps during the day without using me as a bed. It does get easier, but every baby takes their time to get there! Caffeine is your friend OP.

DS2 never once slept through the night til he turned two, I tell you something - that feels like a hell of a long time.

I honestly think some babies just don't like being babies, they are cross and frustrated most of the time. DS2 was just like this and he was so grumpy all the time it was miserable. He's now a sunny, funny little two year old and changed so much when he could walk and talk.

That's not the norm though, hopefully yours will snap out of it soon but 14 weeks is pretty early days in the grand scheme of things. Hang in there.

I really really struggled with newborn stage too. So much so that I'm still mostly sure at 2.3 that DS is an only child.

And I hate to burst the bubble but he didn't sleep through til about 21 mo!

But once we got to some interaction and weaning, we enjoyed him a bit more and now, bar the terrible twos, enjoy parenting

I found the newborn stage the hardest; my DD is nearly 3 and it’s never exactly easy but the more sleep I have the better parent I am and as my DD got older I found I could more and more fun with her

I felt the same it's horrible. And be prepared to get a lot of 'my child is 4 and they still haven't slept' replies.

But the truth is they will and when they do / their personalities start to shine through, it gets so much better. It then keeps getting better until it's the best thing ever.

I have a 2 year old now and have genuinely loved it since she was about 8 months old. Until then it was a process but a considerably more enjoyable one after around the 13-15 week mark, when she started sleeping through.

I had PND which was treated from around 6 weeks which probably also contributed to that 13-15 week breakthrough. But the point is it does get better.

Il drink to that. Though mines almost 2 now and still wakes multiple times through the night. BUT I was the same as you. She just cried 24/7 for nothing. Was impossible to get to sleep and barely napped so was miserable because she was tired

Hang in there mumma. It's a life changer when they're on the go a little like sitting up and rolling over x

I think 3-4 months was the worst for sleep, then both mine gradually started sleeping longer stretches at night. You're at the toughest part but honestly, it gets better, bar the odd week of bad sleep here and there.

Who told you newborn was the easiest stage?!

Unrealistic expectations can turn the happiest circumstances into an issue to be complained about. My DC slept through at around 18 months, and not consistently until over 2y. Luckily I never expected him to, unlike some of my friends who drove themselves insane trying desperately to "resolve the sleep issues". So far as I could see, there were no issues, all totally normal. Same with tantrums, learning to talk, walking etc. The trick is to find the positive in every moment much as that sounds really twee.